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This film is, to me, perfection. Lesbian adjacent stalking, huge focus on real estate and the two GOATiest GOATS- Cate B and Judi D- going head to head at the speed of hysteria. This is what I hoped I was getting when I decided to make a home in London (every part except an affair with a fifteen year old boy. Not good!) Not only do I love the aesthetic- a kind of drab cashmere cowl-neck with a hippie skirt, the sense that everyone is ten degrees too cold, tons of crown moulding- but I love any film about our obsessive cultural interest in catching mothers stepping outside of bounds, and what that punitive glee says about us. Watch for the complex social message, stay to see a young Juno Temple whimper-cry âIâM FAT AS FUCK, MUM!" (sheâs most definitely not, but she plays it perfectly.)
Jan 3, 2023
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Look I know itâs been recâd a lot, but I watched it again last night and itâs perfect. best film ever made. Nothing has ever expressed the bisexual teen intense friendship like it. The portrayal of angry hypersexuality in girls whoâve been assaulted, the twist on the vampire genre, the villainising of indie boy bands, the line âyou give me a wettyâ. Perfection.
Oct 25, 2024
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CĂ©line Sciammaâs queer feminist period drama about two wammin passing the Bechdel test in the Age of Patriarchy gets a thumbs up from me. I watched this movie on the plane and itâs common knowledge that flying makes you emotional/horny, which might explain why it left such a lasting impression.This film has everything you could possibly want: lesbians, nudity, costumes, art history references, vision â all while maintaining an uncharacteristic degree of restraint and not going too hard on the political statements. The casual absence of men for the most part is a nice touch. Iâd even go so far as to say that itâs up there in my hall of fame, along with Harold Pinter and Joseph Loseyâs The Go-Between, Peter Greenawayâs The Draughtsmanâs Contract and Alain Corneauâs All the Mornings of the World. The only thing that wouldâve made it better in my opinion is if they delivered on all the threats of self-immolation in the end, but endings are something that filmmakers historically seem to struggle with, so next.
Aug 23, 2022
âHere piggy, piggy!â From a bondage-clad Emmanuelle Seigner whipping her asshole of a husband Peter Coyote, while he writhes around on the floor in a porcine mask, to an uptight Kristin Scott Thomas lezzing off on the dancefloor on a depressing New Year's Eve cruise, as a bereft Hugh Grant looks on, Roman Polanskiâs erotic thriller is basically just a study of how power works in relationships, but with potentially more drastic consequences like maiming and murder.
Mar 4, 2025
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I met Russell Brown, the man behind LA acupuncture sensation Poke, at a party in WeHo in 2012. I thought we were flirting but I think he was just sizing up my myriad issues and how they could be addressed by Chinese medicine. Heâs since become the kind of friend who is closer to family than actual family, the kind you can call in the night screaming âmy pee doesnât feel right.â His knowledge, calm and ability to discuss Real Housewivesâ behavior using terms like Yang and Chi (while still respecting the concepts) makes him indispensable. If you canât get to LA to see him, where he often works with clients in communities in need, then follow him on Instagram- and subscribe to his free Substack Diet Poke, where he does a great job of simplifying essential concepts in a funny, pop way thatâs still totally healing. I particularly love how he grapples with the LA desire to be perfect and the ways in which certain new age goals are at odds with real healing. To put it simply, heâs my Dr. Phil and my Ma Anand Sheela all rolled into one, only queer and without delusions of grandeur. He gets my vote for most likely to change the world.
Jan 3, 2023
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I have (and have had) many pets since I was a wee girl- newts, bunnies, terriers, gerbils, frogs, iguanas, fish, hedgehogs, and Iâve loved each of them with all Iâve got. But over the last few years, Iâve found my truest passion is raising kittens (donât tell my dogs, who seem 100% sure the cats are just disruptive indignities I must suffer to get back to them.) Kittens are natureâs anti-depressant, the best reality show youâre not watching and a totally inspiring example of the mindfuck that is evolution. I mean, these little creeps have been designed by a Higher Power to look adorably lost, impossibly needy⊠and then BAM theyâre opening all your doors and eating all your salad and looking down at you from the bookshelf like youâre the help in a Downton Abbey sequel. Plus, on a soppy note, a teensy rescue kitten is the example of tenacity we all need- they donât give up as they go from fetal bird confusion to diabolical emperor. Any opportunity to foster, raise and/or unleash kittens on their next willing fin-dom arrangement is one of my higher callings. At the moment, two young âens are staring at me from a cactus shaped condo in the corner of our bedroom. Another eight year old adoptee/Garfield doppelganger is on a reduced calorie diet upstairs so that he can maintain his heart health and travel in something smaller than the laundry hamper. Look at us! Weâre a chic literary salon but Iâm the only one who can read (I think. I have one cat who can probably read, she just does it at night when Iâm not looking.)
Jan 3, 2023
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Recently a woman at a party came up to me and said : âI used to follow your Instagram but I stopped when your interior problems became a bit much for me.â I guess she meant my health issues, but from now on theyâre just âinterior problems.â Over the years, as Iâve gotten more used to living in this body (I have endometriosis, auto-immune arthritis and Ehler-Danlos Syndrome) and have learned more about sick girl/crip culture, Iâve grown simultaneously less noisy about my own struggles (there are a lot of people out there doing it better) and more confident about asking for what I need when I need it. One subtle form of support is the cane: it both allows me to hoof around comfortably when Iâm in pain and reminds people that we arenât all walking around with ease and to handle each other with care. Youâve gotta be pretty heartless to body slam someone on a cane just to get to the simple syrup at Blue Bottle coffee, ya know? The cane has the potential, with a little *lol* legwork, be quite stylish- my most cherished is a womanâs walking stick from the early 20th century with a carved parrotâs head handle, its eyes made from gleaming amber glass- this (and many other wonderful walking stickszzzzz) can be procured at: antiquecanes.com, the kind of business that would fail anywhere else but here in London, itâs thriving. The other favorite source for canes is zitomer.com, the eternally fancy pharmacy on the Upper East Side. These are some Liza Minelli, give em the ole razzle dazzle canes. Plus, you can pick up fancy bows and nice mini hand lotions at the same time.
Jan 3, 2023