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Inspired by Billy Jones' use of oversharing in his list of what he’s into, I’m gonna put forward undersharing. I’m tired of showing my heart to people in conversation and expecting them to understand what I mean or who I really am. I’m ready to be seen and not heard, conversationally. Or maybe, not seen and not heard? Or to start speaking exclusively in riddles. Or to disappear into the ether and come back someday, in some undisclosed era, more frightening than before. After all I have indulged in this piece, I can firmly say that indulging is out, and mystery is in.
Dec 29, 2022
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No person is an island and pushing your thoughts and emotions far away is a surefire way to miss out on genuine shared human connection and emotion. On the other hand making everyone privy to the inner workings of your mind can make you feel as if you’ve lost your enigma. Choose wisely and guard your principles and ideas even though you’re bound to falter at some point.
Apr 17, 2024
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This is hard to do, as a New York native, and someone who has been pretty much on the streets living life since he was a teenager — but recently, I have been trying to go out less. To go out less and stay home more is to show more mystery. It’s to talk less, and it is to make people miss you, and wonder about what you are up to. As someone who is pretty comfortable in any room, I tend to go out quite a bit. But I am beginning to retreat from public life as much as I can. This is not because I am tired of it, or because something nefarious happened, but because I think as a media figure, people start to get nervous when they see you too much. They start to wonder “what’s this guy’s deal?”New York is a city of dreams and relationships, but it is also a city of mystery. It can be big and small at the same time. So, you might want to chill out for a few months. I haven’t had a night out in the Greater Dimes Square Area in a while and I plan to keep it that way — at least until next spring. I’ve been going out in Harlem again — the neighborhood that raised me, and it has been just fine. Post less on social media, be quieter about your personal life, go out a tad bit less, and you’ll find that when you do jump back out, people will be excited to see you.
Oct 16, 2023
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being enigmatic is all fun and games until the people u love don‘t know anything about you. i’m saying this because my mom didn’t know my kfc order but i think this is quite widely applicable
Apr 17, 2024
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This is my #1 absolute all time favorite activity. If you have approximately 2 hours (ideally in early fall or early spring) with nothing in particular to do, take a walk around the city with no destination in mind and see what happens. Maybe you’ll make eye contact for a moment with an attractive person in the crosswalk on 17th and 3rd and see your entire lifetime together flash before your eyes. Or you could catch a glimpse of yourself in the reflection of a Chase bank and remember that you are indeed a person who is alive and on planet earth. Maybe you get an overpriced coffee for some human interaction, drink 2 sips and throw it out while feeling bad about yourself. However you choose to spend that time, it’s yours to waste, and a way to experience the city without the errands and dramas one usually faces in New York. And it’s a great way to hyperfixate on a guilty pleasure song. Recommended tracks for this activity: “Bittersweet Symphony” by the Verve or “I Had a Dream That You Were Mine” by Hamilton Leithauser and Rostam.
Dec 29, 2022
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In the past year I have developed an extreme love for amphibious and mollusk-esque creatures. I don’t know where this comes from, but I have seriously considered purchasing a tank for either a pet frog or a giant snail. If it wasn’t for my touring schedule and the fact that my amphibious tank would inherently become someone else’s problem, I would already be a frog mom by now.
Dec 29, 2022
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I love chaotic evenings full of loud music, ill fitting shoes, and drinks that are too strong. Need I say more? The time of over intellectualizing and prophesying is over. The time of partying, loving, experiencing, and forgetting is upon us. No more thoughts.
Dec 29, 2022