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Iāve noticed a counter culture movement brewing online where the emphasis seems to be on rejecting neoliberal ideas of individualism and increasingly atomized living as a sort of virtue for the sake of our children who would suffer at the hands of climate catastrophe or just the cold hard reality of consciousnesses. Accounts like @carnivoreaurelius or @saveyoursons offer practical advice about the benefits of high quality red meats, the dangers of seed oils, not sunning your asshole enough and soulless dating apps. They provide some respite from the nauseating reality of the current leftist ideology thatās left a lot of us childless at 30 because of eugenicist level logic like āwhy would I contribute to our planetās overpopulation issue?ā. Pundits like Jordan Peterson and Candace Owens have built entire careers off this grift of āno nonsenseā steps to a better, more righteous life. Donāt get me wrong, are these neoconservative pysops? Sure. But at this point itās just about choosing which psyop makes life on Earth tolerable for you. I grew up in a culture that shunned the idea of marriage and children altogether because it reminded us of the traumatic lives our female ancestors just had to accept due to their lack of autonomy. Some cope by stating how relieved they are to enjoy their 20s without the responsibility of family and that they have plenty of time not realizing how hard pregnancy is on the body after the age of 32 or how expensive it is to freeze your eggs or adopt. I was repulsed by the idea for most of my life and then it hit me about a year agoā¦without a solid partner and cute fat babies around, life is kind of a hollow boring nightmare.
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And telling people about it! Iām spreading my gospel and trying to convert people.
Iāve had multiple friends confide in me that they are relieved to hear I donāt plan on ever being married because that takes the pressure off them and we can have each other once our other friends settle down.
I donāt like compromising, loud sounds, or sharing and I love independence and alone time so marriage really isnāt for me. Plus I have never experienced romantic attraction but dont tell anyone š¤«
Thereās so much pressure to settle down so as not to be left alone especially for women but it doesnāt have to be that way!
Feb 23, 2025
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So fundamentally insecure, yet purposely overt rights-warriors thus inadvertently led to accept being treated like disposable shit because their cunt, insecure partners (like themselves) are upfront and respectful about it (detachment theory! āš¼š), that experiencing their reaction to a first-time, explosive, passionate, earth-shattering, actually caring, scary-as-fuck unmoored love is crazy fun. Pretty sure it applies to all genders/sexualities, except maybe lesbians (though probably so, and I'm just biased toward lesbos for naively thinking they possess higher feminine power unattached to the patriarchy.)
May 26, 2024
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I read once that our culture teaches girls and young women that they have to work hard and plan to get what they want in life. Disney princesses have to take on a lot of responsibility.
Cis white men on the other hand donāt get those messages. Weāve always been able to coast along and our privileged position in society has meant we can end up successful without planning or withoutinitiative.
Now men donāt get by as easily as that, and theyāre lost as to how to go about it. They do poorly in school, they lack self motivation, and they donāt get their shit together.
Huge generalities in there, and Iām plagiarizing an article I read, but it feels right to me.
I do think thereās something to the idea that American men are not prepared to fend for themselves in life. So I can imagine dating us is frustrating.
Jul 3, 2024
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I think weāre all familiar with that nagging aching back pain from hunching over a laptop in the dark for hours on end. Other than massages which can get pricey and having a bathtub big enough to soak in, which is considered a privilege in this city, this is the next best method of keeping chronic back pain under control. I like to roll all the way down to my lower back and hold my legs straight up. Foam rolling and/or just lying on the floor instead of in bed or on the couch is my most preferred way of scrolling, whether itās for doom or pleasure. Thereās also levels of hardness you can move up once the smooth foam no longer hurts good enough. I think Iām ready for an upgrade.
Dec 6, 2022
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Iām not going to lie, I used to be the type to cringe at adults whose beds were covered in stuffed animals and still do believe there should be a cut off but I just recently began growing my family of plushies and itās really upgraded my lounging time, of which there is a lot of. Sometimes Iām not sure what my overall aesthetic is or how I want my home to look but I think itās somewhere between Korean minimalism and straight up age regressed paradise. Iām unashamed of the joy it brings me to walk into a store, suddenly come across a plushie I feel drawn to and bring it home with a newfound name/personality. My first one was a four foot teddy bear handed down to me by a follower after I posted how much I wanted a giant teddy bear. Shout out to them. His name is Genji, named after Murasaki Shikibuās āThe Tale of Genjiā: a classic work of Japanese literature written in the early 11th century centered on the life and loves of a handsome son born to an Emperor. Then, I have a Harbour seal whoās name I forgot so I renamed him Melvin, a grey bunny named Roger and a pink squishmallow named Martha May Vicky Christina Barcelona. I donāt know why theyāre mostly male so donāt ask me. I look forward to extending this family.
Dec 6, 2022
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The argument could be made that Iāve become dependent on these but as someone who suffers from chronic congestion, itās either this or a rhinoplasty. I love the ones with a keychain attached. I like to hang it off my index finger and spin it around so it doubles as an accessory and fidget toy. My goal is to make this the new it product for club goers and hopefully a brand endorsement from VICKS. Only baddies with congestion and a craving for ketamine can pull it off.
Dec 6, 2022