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i feel like ive fallen into the trap of shrouding all i say, negative or positive, in sarcasm. i think i do this because it creates the illusion of confidence, indifference. if that makes sense. so this is more of a recommendation for myself.
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it feels like across the board everyones worst fear at the moment is being seen as naïve...i guess snark is a way of insulating yourself from this
May 9, 2024
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when i worked at the Apple Store / Genius Bar in college, we were trained on "assuming positive intent" from customers and peers. at the time, when i was a shithead 20-year-old, i thought this phrase was such bullshit. of course i can tell when someone has malicious intent, why not respond in kind! but now that i'm a bit older, i've realized the real wisdom behind the idea "assume positive intent" is that, when faced with interpersonal conflict, it's better to take the path of least resistance and keep your cool.
for example, if i'm getting kind of annoyed with someone at work and i want to write a snarky email, i find it best to walk away from the keyboard and write my response when i'm feeling less activated.
the result is that i can feel good about how i handle my feelings, i reflect better on other people, and i'm being an actual grown up. ;~)
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Conscious or subconscious, to:
1. Use your wit/intelligence/insight
2. Communicate your values/conviction
3. Engage in collective activity/be in an in-group
4. Vent!
None of these in the appropriate degree or circumstance are bad things. But, unfortunately snark also is counterproductive to having vulnerable conversations with people. And therein lies the rub: most people do really want that, but because diving in to the lion’s den with your fuzzy lambswool on is a wild move, it’s easier to put on your lion-skin and go snark mode. People would likely be more fulfilled participating in spaces where they can be sincere and mutually respectful. But often they either don’t know where to look, or they’re entrenched with the band-aid validation they’re getting from their snark zones.
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