the anxiety part. recently started doing more things solo when I felt like it or when plans didn’t work out and I think it just took a flip of the switch and some gentle reminders. trust that if you’re doing what you want to do and you’re doing your own thing, people aren’t spending a ton of time thinking about you or the fact that you’re alone. Practically none. Trust that. You’re a very very small part of the cosmos. Don’t let the ego get in the way of enjoying what‘s right in front of you. You have the freedom to engage with people as much or as little as you want. it takes practice, but it’s liberating and kinda sexy to have that comfort with yourself.
Feb 18, 2024
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There are lots of reasons that spending time alone can feel scary, so if this doesn’t feel true or land right just take whatever resonates! discomfort around alone time might indicate avoiding sitting with some uncomfortable/painful feeling or other. practicing mindfulness, even if for a few minutes can be helpful. (Meditating, drawing, paying attention to your senses)
If the sound of that fills u with dread, you could also think of some goals you have for yourself right now and look at what steps you could do to get you closer to accomplishing them! A lot of projects require some amount of solo work and planning!
if I’m stuck feeling frustrated/uncomfortable I turn to solo dance parties, making bad art, and organizing my space as a way to transition into alone time
Remember, ur fun and u get to hang out with urself, how neat is that!
Jan 12, 2025
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i see solitude as metamorphosis. you need that time in the cocoon to really check in with yourself and the joy of that comes from how you'll gain a deeper understanding of yourself.
sometimes i spend SO much time with myself that i get SO BORED that I HAVE to venture outside of myself. when i say venture, i mean challenging myself in how i self- express which will in turn, nourish my interactions with others when i choose to seek company.
proceeding to create art, but trying new methods. going down youtube rabbit holes of things i am interested in so i can discover new references. cooking a meal without following a recipe and surprising myself. making the space i am in super cosy (candles, snacks on deck, music, blankets) going on long walks and picking up conversations with strangers through shared observations of life around us. watching music festivals/boiler rooms and dancing around my room like a mad man.
once you feel comfortable in being by yourself, you'll be more aware of what you need from your company and when you seek it, you'll be a lot more intentional about it and cherish it even more.
Oct 7, 2024
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once you get to know yourself better internally, you'll realize there are parts of yourself you can't access when you're out in the world, and you'll look forward to having your own company to visit them. it also helps yes, to do things and have hobbies, but also just going new places alone. people don't talk about this enough but depression and loneliness can very much be tied to a place, and if the only time you're alone is when you're in your room, you'll probably associate it with feeling sad and stuck. keep up a whimsical spirit and go exploring alone and think of things you never would in the company of others. make it special and you'll start to look forward to it.
Feb 26, 2025
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a study issued last month found that dancing is the most effective way of treating and mitigating depression. Walking, therapy, and yoga also outpaced SSRIs. and if you're saying 'oh this was probably funded by Big Dance', there's no evidence of that and if you're saying 'that's just what a Big Dance shill would say', well honey you're right
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Reminder that most of what we do is a performance
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