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DOWN WITH SELF-DECEPTION
Anyways some things to help this include
- reading on self respect by joan didion
- taking responsibility for Fucking Up
- making a tangible list of good things about yourself
- realizing that honesty is ultimately less painful
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A healthy exercise for all of us that have to cooperate with other humans on a day to day basis. (I think most of us, right??)
From my experience working as a cook in a kitchen: major f-ups happens all the time. Maybe because something were not communicated properly, maybe because someone is a bit off or maybe because something important was just completely forgotten about by everyone.
Usually it's not a big deal, you re-strategise, change the game plan and everything works out just fine in the end. What I've noticed is that when people start calling each other out... that is when shit really begins to hit the fan.
To loudly announce "Who did WHAT??", "Why the FUCK would anyone ever??" or just "IDIOT!" are maybe sooome of the more obvious ways cooks telegraphs their feelings regarding these f-ups and mistakes, at least in a not so healthy workplace. Usually it is not this obvious, you probably know about these ways of critique since they're universal. Everywhere where mistakes and f-ups happen there'll always be people glaring, mumbling and trying to subtly imply who's guilty or just find someone to put the blame on and make feel bad. Somehow this always seems to be more relevant than to power through and solve the problems. WEIRD, I know.
But how do I go about trying to not be that guy, the guy more concerned about who did it rather than finding a solution, and what do I suggest you should do to avoid becoming that guy?
Whenever you find yourself in a situation where a mistake affects you, whether someone bumps into you at the grocery store or you and your peers fail to accomplish that common goal you all had in mind, the first thing that should pop into your mind is "What could I have done different to avoid this?". Always assume it's your fault.
Why? Because you know. You know FOR SURE it was a mistake, you know FOR SURE you didn't want this to happen to you or affect anyone around you. Sometimes shit happens, maybe you were tired, inattentive or just having a bad day, it doesn't matter. What matters is that it was an honest mistake and not your ~intention~. Now you may strive to correct it and make sure it won't happen again (even though it might and it'd be okey).
After this moment of self reflection you might find yourself in a situation where you come to the conclusion... fuck, I did nothing wrong... They did. What do you do then? Go through a similar train of thought, be kind, assume they meant no harm and that it was a honest mistake. Without bad intentions I think it should be difficult to be truly upset.
In the long run I think this exercise have helped me becoming more of self reflecting person, more kind towards other and especially towards myself. Whenever I don't live up to my own expectations I just reflect about what I should've done differently to achieve the result I want rather than thinking of myself as worthless. This to me is a huge key to improving and actually learning.
Thanks for the read if you made it this far!
And to all of you who think this is obvious stuff,
to a lot of people it's not.
Trust me on that one.
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