🦪
article dissecting the cultural messaging and changes in modern popular lingerie (from parade to victorias secret) and contrasting the 2010s corporate girlboss messaging with vibe shift of the 2020s:
"Eroticism is incongruous with sight. It’s all about hidden pleasures, mystery, masquerade, freedom, secrecy. Lingerie is not secret; it is a sexual offering, an altar made from visible blessings. True eroticism comes from what cannot be seen, predicted, sensed, or divined. Eroticism carries an essential risk. Lingerie has no risk. It is as plain as a donut.
It is in that, then, that we see other things bloom in quiet popularity: Brandy Melville pajamas; satin Comme Si boxer shorts; big t-shirts over panties; and, of course, women online lusting after Nicole Kidman’s Egyptian cotton pointelle tank top set from Eyes Wide Shut — a movie that came out 24 years ago, but still feels new in its approach to eroticism."
Feb 22, 2024
Related Recs
@mothersuperior post on latex and the yearndemic reminded me of this essay that I read a few years ago about the commodification and fetishization of the body and how it’s been paralleled with a lack of chemistry and sexuality that we used to see on screen. The title is your tldr: everyone is hot and no one is horny. The sterilization of sexuality and sex is everywhere, past even film. It’s a response to the acceleration of capitalism, war and colonial extraction of the earth. It has crept into the ways we view ourselves, our experience and our bodies.
One thing I took away from this essay is that to align yourself with traditional beauty standards will make you too tired to fuck. Similarly, the whole « working on yourself » grind that I heard on first dates all the time is this strange, individualistic perspective that makes you too exhausted and distracted for the holistic chemistry we desire. We flatten our lives to marketable lines that make us appear attractive - I’m working on myself, I’ve been going to therapy, I have a nice job and apartment. And while people are obviously horny, they don’t know for what - forming our bodies to be better, our minds fixed and correct, we can’t pinpoint what the purpose is cause we’re too fucking exhausted to investigate further than that. Love, desire, and chemistry feel more and more elusive.
For us to morph ourselves into the image of sexiness according to western beauty standards, there is sacrifice (nutrients, your current corporeal form, the ability to be perceived as more than an object, working long hours for your grind) that doesn’t align with sensuality (unless you’re into that). There is no room for the spectrum of sensations you body is capable of feeling. There is no room for desire when we’ve given it all up the capitalist war machine. :p
3d ago
we're losing the holy war to virgins and wattpaders. males would rather spend an evening watching sissy hypno jois than fucking a real life woman. lesbian cinema has been plagued by the yearndemic as if hollywood can't imagine two women wanting to go at it nasty style. all the fasion forcasters are saying oversized utilitarian shlop is in for 2025. dating apps practically let you mail order cock to your house and yet we're fucking less than ever. what the fuck is going on? when reagan was in office robert mapplethorpe taking photos of a guy in a gimp suit with a cum guzzling tube coming from his mouth. we need that back. i think latex is one of the few materials that trancends the digital hellscape we're living in right now. it engages the senses. you can look at a photo of someone wearing latex and know exactly what it smells like and tastes like and feels like. it's the closest one can get to nudity while being fully clothed. it tantalizes because it relies so heavily on implication. in an era where you can get on the internet and view 4k photos of body parts the victorians only saw after a decade of marriage, latex delays gratification by forcing the observer to fill in the blanks. the people in office are trying to scrub the earth of anything they find perverse and replace artists with thieving robots who only work because of the centuries of human creativity that came before them. fantasy is one of the only things unique to human sexuality. we need to be reveling in it, not supressing it!!!
Mar 4, 2025
🐎
This document was more or less the codex for K-HOLE. Genius text over teenage smut. Girls riding horses nude on the beach. Recently, I watched the Netflix documentary on the brand. Wow, nothing got deeper in my lizard brain than Bruce Weber and naked 18 year old Jamie Dornan. A fun tidbit is that the editor of the magazine went to college in my hometown. Suddenly the sexy lax bro’s cavorting in front of the roomie white clapboard lake house made so much sense. I love it all even more now.
Jun 14, 2022
Top Recs from @veggiedumpling
read from 2021 abt modern counterculture, rejecting tech overlords, and the dark forests of the internet
"To be truly countercultural today, in a time of tech hegemony, one has to, above all, betray the platform, which may come in the form of betraying or divesting from your public online self.”
Feb 20, 2024
😃
well-written article analyzing cronenburg's films and contrasting them with today's sexual politics and lack of eroticism.
passage i enjoyed: In fact, we are not impermeable packages of preformed desires, importing our likes and dislikes around with us from one encounter to the next like papers in a briefcase. An erotic craving is inextricable from the ferment that foams up when oneself is sluiced into another. Not only is it impossible for us to know whether an encounter will be deflating or transformative but we cannot know what sort of metamorphosis will ensue if the sex is as jarring as we can only hope it will be.
Feb 19, 2024
🦪
and marvel at the progress you've made. im reading my old journal entries and i was actually a mess, but i've grown so much in a year :) always love and appreciate your old self because she's still within you
Apr 2, 2024