Rec | BE MORE ROMANTICAL.

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(I know that’s not really a word, but it is a philosophy) It’s OK if you’re single, do things that inspire yourself and be creative and make grand gestures and epic pronouncements. If you’re in a committed partnership, keep the spark alive by doing unexpected and spontaneous things. And if you have multiple partners, the serotonin and dopamine from being with one can spread to your relationships with the others. As Spider Robinson said, shared joy is increased.

@0xc0ffee

Mar 8, 2024

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With everything you do. Write a love letter, make someone something sweet, show up with a boombox outside someone's window blasting In Your Eyes, buy someone flowers, do something meaningful, go on a spontaneous trip with someone, tell someone you are thinking about them, look at yourself in the mirror and tell yourself how wonderful you think you are, read a poem, get lost on the dancefloor, listen to a good song, smile at something tender, listen to Sleepy Lagoon by the platters...the possibilities are endless, you should try it sometime...

@jo-rosenthal

Apr 28, 2022

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Romance exists if you are willing to work for it

Oh I’m sorry, you thought romance was just a thing that happens? Without any effort or work? HA. That ^^^ tangent is aimed at people who think romance is a thing that just exists. It is very sarcastic ok. My wife and I started dating at 14, so 17 years ago now. We’ll be married 8 years this year. And we’ve had to choose + work to keep the romance alive. So many people end up in loveless marriages and we decided early on that we wouldn’t fall victim to that. We knew it wouldn’t be easy. How do you keep the romance alive while one of you is depressed? When you’re transitioning jobs? When you’re exhausted? Once you have a baby and life changes? Through parenthood and the challenges that come with it? I think for some people, those big events take a toll on them and the romance dies. But friend, let me tell you something — IT IS ON YOU TO KEEP THE ROMANCE ALIVE. Love gets a relationship going and sustains it but it’s on us to make sure we keep the romantic aspect of the dynamic going. Plan dates. Surprise each other. Make out A LOT. And make sure the other person also wants to do those things!!! You cannot self-fulfill romance in a two person dynamic all by yourself. I’m just (admittedly) tired of the phrase “Romance is dead” because romance itself doesn’t die, it’s that people (1) think it just happens magically or (2) when they realize it takes work, they don’t want to work for it to keep it going. “Oh but it was so romantic at first” — OF COURSE IT WAS BECAUSE YOU WERE EXCITED AND HAD BUTTERFLIES. Guess what! YOU CAN STILL BE EXCITED 17 YEARS IN AND STILL HAVE BUTTERFLIES! But you need to work for it. And you need to find someone who wants to work for it with you. Or you know, just don’t! But it’s so special and wonderful to see how something can last & be healthy & sustained when it is cared for intentionally. So maybe someone is reading this and thinking “BULLSHIT” well in 20 years I’ll be 51 and wife will be 50 and we’ll STILL BE MAKING OUT BECAUSE WE OPTED INTO THIS AND AGREED TO KEEP IT GOING. *** — I cannot overstate the importance of making out often.

@marianoleonczik

Feb 18, 2025

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a hopeless romantic (who knows her worth)

romantic gestures (grand or small, whatever you’re into) balanced with honesty, understanding, acceptance, patience, communication and trust. compromise is important too but within reason! you shouldn’t compromise to the point where you lose yourself or feel like you’re settling for the sake of love and the person you love shouldn’t want that either. also, a lot of people want to be in a relationship for the sake of company and companionship and fail to see the other as their own person. so have standards, even if that means you won’t be in a relationship right away. love means being able to be an individual and appreciated as such. love should not be your identity, your identity should be present in how you love. i don’t know i have a very practical but fantastical approach…maybe it’s my taurus venus. personally i fancy a little fun and humor as well. if i can’t be silly with my lover i don’t want it.