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That day right before your birthday is a good one, lots of self-reflecting thought, thinking about yourself and your character, finding *what* you need to do for self-improvement. Than just completely forget all that stuff and party until that midnight hour strikes đş
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manifesto forthcoming.
i hear time and time again - âiâm not a birthday person.â as a convert, iâm here to challenge that limiting belief.
not unlike new yearâs eve, getting your hopes up for a single night is futile. thus, i have the following advice:
-embrace birthday weekÂ
  month is a little much, even for me, but allow the week to be birthday-centric. this doesnât have to be sunday to sunday; it can  consist of any of the surrounding days that feel relevant to THE day
-multiple experiences
  much like new yearâs eve, hanging your hat on one night is doomed. thus, i recommend that you implement ALL (not some) of the following:
INTIMATE DINNER
+with partner, family, a couple of friends. something that feels low key and non stressful. great for a thursday or sunday night. let them know ahead of time (if they need reminding) that you would like a candle of some sort on a house dessert (is this too bossy?? NO! youâd do the same for the ones you love. next). (i also get desserts with candles the whole month, unabashedly. and do the same for loved ones.)
SOLO DAY
+plan things for yourself: solo lunch, matinee, massage. buy a fancy latte. take a cab. spare no expense; today you turn off the switch in your head that wonders if itâs worth it because it is.
FRIEND DAY
+have people over, meet at a bar, or throw a full on party. this is group time. i honestly recommend doing this one last. youâll likely have enough fun with the other two events that this will feel like a cherry on top. ask your type A friend to help plan, if you need help, and remind them again ab some sort of treat w canes. this doesnât have to be a blowout! tell everyone to bring whomever, +1s, enemies as itâs more-the-merrier vibes.
tl;dr everyone deserves to be celebrated and there are people in your life eager to help you make it happen. ask for what you want. do the same for them down the line â¤ď¸
ps my birthday is 3/17 if you need to start preparing
pps bonus tip - pic is of last yearâs birthday outfit. i also like to throw a very easy mini theme to get people thinking ahead of time (i said to wear silk, leather, or mesh. everybody looked hot)
ppps i have so much more to say ab this, lmk if you want moreÂ
Feb 3, 2024
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I try not to think of my age too much on my birthday, but the more I say it and write it throughout the year, the more it feels right. Spares me a few existential crisis to cope with it gradually.
I feel awkward asking people to celebrate myself, so I usually just ask friends and/or family to go out to a restaurant I like. It's a lot more casual and doesn't require much planning. I sometimes also don't tell people it's specifically for my birthday đ
helps take the pressure and expectations off if people can't come.
Happy early birthday! Hope you'll have a great day with whatever you choose to do!
Jan 7, 2025
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Why tf have I spent years being like omg is tang too much? Should I pare Things down etc
Itâs my birthday bitch and I expect gifts drinks kisses and love
And I will be having two days of events sue me
Jan 3, 2025
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