My last break up left me feeling super neglected so I got together with a friend and we went to the beach together. I cooked for us and she drove. We spent the day there and it was just so nice to be under the sun and to feel the wind on my face and under my dress. I pretended to be a middle-age divorcé who leaves her family to feel young and free again by the beach, smoke, read, drink, dance, and flirt with hotties.
None of that happened ofc, we just went to the beach and ate home-made burgers, but having a friend to entertain my delusion and hang out at the beach was equally as healing. I will bever forget that day
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- solo camping trip spent driving, hiking, eating snacks and good food, talking to randoms, finding cool shops and good coffee (usually in sequoia/sierra/yosemite)
- a nice date with a beautiful girl + stimulating conversation
- posting up on a random corner for hours chatting about dumb shit with my childhood friend
- rewatching a favorite movie (mostly My Night at Maud’s by Eric Rohmer)
- chocolate croissant and a cortado
- outdoor workout at my favorite canyon view calisthenics park in Laguna Beach
Nov 10, 2024
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Okay normally i would never recommend this but there's something awesome about finishing college and not being so depressed that your brain feels like it's collapsing in on itself. Florida is warm and pretty and smells like White Claws on the beach. Christmas in the pool. Food in the fridge and a heated blanket on the couch while I watch Bridget Jones's Diary. Yeah it's Awesome.
Dec 19, 2023
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People you haven’t seen in years, wounds healed by time, affordable food and drink, family, watching TV.
If you’re as lucky as me there‘ll be seaside and countryside too. Maybe it wasn’t about the destination, but the friends we made along the way?
Dec 28, 2023
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New follower? OOP! Does that men we're getting married?
You re-rec'd me? You want me so bad let's make out.
The baddies wanna be mutuals? What if I cum about it? Much to consider...
PI.FYI dating-app mode when???
Oct 15, 2024
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A little personal, but being non-binary, I grew up very dissociated from my body and my time, so I don’t remember a good chunk of my formative years and have retained none of my hobbies. Recently tho, I have been trying to piece myself back together, so I have been spending a lot of time on my own. Another thing about me is that I have crushes everywhere I go, so I spend a lot of time loving others. After breaking-up with an ex that made me feel very neglected qnd unappreciated, I decided that I was going to give myself as much love and attention as I give my crushes and lovers. This has changed me.
I just let myself feel my feelings and get carried away by them. I get myself little treats and flowers, I get myself little treats and gifts. I organize little fun dates/plans for myself where I engage in new hobbies. Small manageable things that don’t feel too overwhelming to learn, like decorating Altoids tins with collage or journaling. By letting myself navigate the world through my feelings, I’ve discovered what I like, dislike, and developed little rituals and habits that I can then tell other about and share.
Social media has helped me that way, surprisingly. I treat my instagram like a scrap book and use it to document my feelings with shitposts and photos; the visual story telling makes me appreciate the little things. Pinterest allows me to collect things I like and develop a taste with no effort and no consequences, and I end up with huge pin boards full of pictures and art I love and that make me feel particular things I can name and explore. This app has been good for that too.
It takes time, love, self-compassion, and trust. Trust that the love others give you is legitimate. Trust that you are liked for a genuine reason. Trust that the mundane is magical by itself, love it for that. Trust that you don’t need to be special to be worthy of love, you can just be a person and that’s really cool <3
Mar 11, 2024
I literally got it today from a trans girl who really marked my life as a transfemme in university. She’s a tattoo artist now and not only did she mark my time here, but my skin with her beautiful art 🫶🏼
Apr 6, 2024