I moved to a rent stablized apartment Hoboken right after college and I couldnā€™t really hack it. Beautiful neighborhood, great food, but my social life pretty much totally collapsed since all my friend + work was based in NYC. You definitely need to move there knowing some friends/family or with a partner/kids. My family is from Jersey City/Hoboken, and I think if you grew up there its probably a great place to live, but ultimately unless you spend most of your time in FiDi or Chelsea donā€™t expect a ton of access to New York . Going anywhere in Brooklyn takes about an hour minimum when the trains are running and closer to two when they arenā€™t really running (pretty much any night after 12). I live in with roommates in Brooklyn now and Iā€™m sooooo much happier, but also this was just my experience as someone trying to work as an artist in my early 20s
Apr 4, 2024

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hereā€™s my misc thoughts lol iā€™m no expert but this is from my POV as someone whoā€™s lived here full time a bit and grew up visiting all the time. firstly, youā€™re def right that it is expensive ā€” nearly impossible to relocate to if you donā€™t have a job secured and arenā€™t rich. even moreso if you have never visited or have only done one super tourist-y visit--itā€™s not just Times Square and Statue of Liberty (love her tho) rainbows and butterflies vibes lol. like i seriously do not recommend moving here if you havenā€™t been to other boroughs, and neighborhoods outside of Midtown, SoHo, FiDi, UES etc. iā€™ve never been to england so canā€™t speak to it bit you might find it helpful to look online for comparisons to cities youā€™ve spent more time in - london and other cities in europe perhaps. consider if NYC would be that much more exciting or ā€œbetterā€ for you? also thereā€™s a huge issue of influencers and people who wanna live here impulsively for fun that has driven up rent and driven out lifetime residents, esp working class folks and people of color. (lots of writing out there on the difference between moving to any city vs gentrifying one, and what one can do to not be complicit in the latter). and, my family is from here and i have always loved the city; i did get a job here after graduation but i really wouldnā€™t have moved here if i hadnā€™t. so definitely come here intentionally, and arrive with a willingness to engage with your community! sometimes new residents who arenā€™t as acquainted with the ā€œrealā€ new york and canā€™t afford apts in the more gentrified or historically wealthy areas (most of manhattan, some parts of brooklyn) have a misconception of the city, so they end up feeling awkward or ā€œunsafeā€ where they live, and thus donā€™t give back to their neighborhood. itā€™s veryyy weird that some people move here only to go to work, eat out and party on the weekends. (not saying this is you ofc! but just a general note). the irony is that NYers get a bad rep for the mind your own business culture and realness--and yeah NYers arenā€™t ā€œniceā€, but people are kind. folks care about and actively help out their neighbors. i saw this in my own fam growing up! and as sinatra himself once said: ā€œif i can make it here, iā€™ll make it anywhere.ā€ it is a tough place to ā€œmake itā€ for people without roots. but iā€™d never deny that new york, for many of us, lives up to its reputation as the so-called greatest city in the world ;)
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(grew up in astoria, did school in jersey, currently in seattle) if youā€™re serious about being an entertainer / artist i do think you should probably eventually end up in new york or la (at some point, not necessarily forever) new york is just unforgiving; itā€™s cold and wet, half your paycheck is going to your landlord, and even though thereā€™s an active and vibrant art scene thereā€™s zero handholding if youā€™re just getting started - ā€œgetting startedā€ in nyc means youā€™ve been at it for 5+ years and are finally getting your flowers. itā€™s harder to build community bc itā€™s kind of like going to la and introducing yourself by going ā€œi moved here bc i wanna be famous!ā€ yeah, you and everyone else here - too many people have that in common for it to be something to meaningfully connect on, there has to be something more substantive there moving to seattle put this in perspective for me (and iā€™m sure Iā€™ll move back to new york bc itā€™s home for me, but) the smaller the scene, the more excited theyā€™ll be for newcomers, the more support youā€™ll get on your first project, booking your first gig, etc. if itā€™s in the cards for you to move to the city, you will, and itā€™ll be incredible - if youā€™re not at that point yet youā€™re living in the most expensive city in the world to be proximal to other artists, but there are already artists in your city, and theyā€™re not necessarily gonna penalize you for being new to it recently a lot of people move to new york to be consumers or to be adjacent to the ā€œthe sceneā€ for their socials which is borderline malicious while thereā€™s a housing shortage; itā€™s literally taking someone elseā€™s spot, whether theyā€™re *from* there, or at least there for a *reason*. new york has always had transplants so itā€™s not becoming to say ā€œno one should move there!ā€ but you just gotta ask yourself what youā€™re gonna get out of it, if itā€™s worth the bill youā€™re gonna foot, whether youā€™ll really be able to give back in a way thatā€™s commensurate with what youā€™re getting
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Iā€™m from the midwest, moved to manhattan for college, stayed for a bit after, have recently moved to a few different cities, and have wished to be back living in new york ever since. Itā€™s often talked about like a thrilling dreamā€” itā€™s obviously not. But what I can say is that I think in many ways living there helped me grow into a person I really understand. I was listening to a podcast recently where this comedian brittany carney said something like living in new york slaps her in the face every day but she likes that about it so she stays. I think that was a pretty accurate way to describe it. It took me a while to feel comfortable living there, but I still remember the moment I realized that it had become my home, and ever since no home Iā€™ve made for myself has felt quite the same.
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