My therapist is not a tough love kinda therapist. And I've maybe heard him curse three times. But we had been talking about the same issue for a while and I was trying not to ruminate, but I was also analyzing and pathologizing over and over. And finally he just said, sometimes you have to get the fuck over it. And it allowed me to imagine a life beyond the past, to not let the past define you. It's easier said than done to just flip a switch and actively choose a better way. To stop it from taking up so much space in your head. But sometimes you truly need to flip that switch and get over it.