I am a socially anxious person and have managed to go to lots of concerts alone, from 10 people at a bar to 72,000 seeing tswift. It’s awkward, I won’t lie! Before a show and between sets it feels weird to stand around alone. Yes, nobody really cares if you’re alone (and other people will be alone too), but anxiety doesn’t know that!
But you probably have a phone to look at and that helps a lot. you also could talk to people and they’re probably nice but I can’t really speak to that!
Once the music is playing, everything is fine! But it’s important to say that I’m a cis white male and my experiences of being alone probably are very different than otherpeople’s.
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I started going to shows alone about nine years ago and I’ve never regretted it! To set the scene, I mostly go to small shows with 20 to 150 people there. I am 50, have social anxiety, and almost always the oldest person in the crowd, sometimes decades older than anyone else.
As soon as a band I love starts playing, none of that matters! It’s just joyful!
If there are artists you love, you owe it to yourself and to them to go see and support them!
*that said, I’m a man and all this could be much different for a woman! I think people will look out for you, though. I know I do (but from a distance - I really don’t want to look like an old creep!)
Oct 20, 2024
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the best concerts i've been to alone are ones where i accidentally made temporary friends. i know the anxiety defeats this rec a little bit (i usually am in & out silently when i go to shows alone, so this is rare) but i recently went to a show by myself and made a few friends in line and it made the experience so much more enjoyable. sometimes the anxiety stems from feeling like ur standing/staring in a place where u feel totally isolated as if u dont belong there, but learning even the bare minimum about the ppl around u can sometimes eliminate that. talking to strangers is hard all the time but the lucky thing about concerts is that u definitely have at least 1 thing in common :) butt into some conversations. compliment someone's outfit. it gives u someone to vibe with/talk to for a few minutes or hours and then, if u want, u can disappear and never see them again!
Mar 3, 2024
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deciding to go to a concert alone is so huge, so yay on that !!
definitely agree with whats already been rec’d, but i actually found that going on my phone before events was rly helpful ? that and getting a drink before the show starts gives my hands sth to do, and makes me feel a lot less anxious about being there alone. i’ve noticed that lots of concert venues also tend to have rly shitty reception / data, which can be a good conversation starter with other people around u (esp if you see someone else by themself).
i’m a pretty anxious / self-conscious person in these types of environments, especially if i’m alone. i found that the act of going to a show alone wasn’t as scary as actually being there and trying to enjoy the moment (fear of being perceived and whatnot). i think i’ve had to learn over time:
a) which artists i actually like enough to go see and
b) using the post-concert regret to fight through the insecurities
HAHA tldr, i guess what i’m trying to say is no pressure if u go to a show alone and don’t have the best experience !! all of this is just a learning curve ❤️🔥❤️🔥❤️🔥 (but hope u have fun with this concert hehehe)
Oct 20, 2024
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