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how about listening to women for once

am I right fellas

@joebiden

6d ago

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Tl;dr what you’re experiencing is indicative of a cultural shift

I read once that our culture teaches girls and young women that they have to work hard and plan to get what they want in life. Disney princesses have to take on a lot of responsibility. Cis white men on the other hand don’t get those messages. We’ve always been able to coast along and our privileged position in society has meant we can end up successful without planning or withoutinitiative. Now men don’t get by as easily as that, and they’re lost as to how to go about it. They do poorly in school, they lack self motivation, and they don’t get their shit together. Huge generalities in there, and I’m plagiarizing an article I read, but it feels right to me. I do think there’s something to the idea that American men are not prepared to fend for themselves in life. So I can imagine dating us is frustrating.

@bee1000

Jul 3, 2024

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some things i learnt as a woman working in a male dominated industry

- have a firm handshake. this is an unspoken way that a lot of self-indulged men like to measure themselves up against the person they have just met. don’t me afraid to squeeze their hands. - as dangerous as the “ask for forgiveness, not permission“ saying is, sometimes it is necessary as the older generation of men don’t want to hear what you have to say. - dress appropriately and conservatively, it is the only way to be taken seriously - stop apologising, because they don’t. - don’t let yourself be interrupted, call them out and declare that you haven’t finished speaking. - learn about their hobbies, it helps to appeal to their broad interests to strengthen your bond, because you need to make your mark (f1, golfing, etc) - don’t be afraid to lean into your femininity, the older men sometimes crumble when you bat your eyes a little and are more likely to agree or listen to what you have to say (unfortunately, but consider it a super power)

@jilly

Mar 5, 2025

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