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Compliment the people you come across

I need to take my own advice… I will often meet people and the lovely things about them stick out to me — be it their laugh, the way they wear their hair, maybe a particular piece of clothing — and I really want to compliment them but the words are like peanut butter in my mouth and I can’t spit it out! I mean every now and again I remember a compliment I’ve gotten and am all 🤭 over it. I need to put that good energy back into the world!!!

@corazonatomico

Jan 28, 2024

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complimenting others

you both walk away feeling good

@sola

Jan 24, 2024

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Complimenting every woman u see

Immediately besties 🤝 good karma

@carla

Feb 2, 2024

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if it touches your skin, don't skimp on it

Underwear, soap, sunblock, sheets; if you're putting up a barrier between the physical you and the oh-so-hazardous world then, if possible, have it be the most effective barrier it can be.

@capnhahab

May 15, 2024

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Dad lore

Why do they hide so much history within them? Why does that past come out in most unprompted ways? Why is the pizza line at Costco essential for me to learn my grandfather's name was Salvador, that dad was buddies with famous luchadores, or that he is casual friends with many a notable playwright? I hope it's not the feeling that I'd be uninterested; I certainly am. His storytelling is so casual, so carefree. Maybe he likes the old days to be the old days and his place to be in the now, and his way of keeping the past at bay is to scarcely visit it, to give nostalgia no special regard. Perhaps he likes the chance to be mysterious, and he very much is in these moments. It's strange for there to be mystery between us, but that's unavoidable, I guess. I try not to take it as a barrier. We are mysteries even to ourselves; it's an unjustly tall order to make ourselves crystal clear for others, even our children, perhaps. Whatever it is, I treasure each pearl of the weird history, the places he has been and the trouble he got into. He was and still is that young man just as I hope to still be who I am today, even if in bite-sized, shocking portions.

@capnhahab

Apr 29, 2024

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raise a cactus and learn to let go

If you want to practice patience and the horror of letting go, cacti are there for you. You'll soon learn that sometimes what the subject of your care needs the most out of you is nothing. Overdoing is a death sentence; overwatering, over sunning, over shadowing. The damned green nub might even seem to mock your ministrations when you're not looking. Let it be, please. Remember the name Münchhausen. The desire to act is the most insidious poison for a cactus; it will get you high off the delusion of the importance of your actions as it drowns your plant, which will fuel further your thirst for action and the inevitable death-spiral of rot and fungi. It doesn't need salvation. It certainly doesn't care for it. All it asks for is a little water, enough sun, some repotting and, of course, love. Always love; just not enough of the stuff for it to kill the cactus.

@capnhahab

Apr 23, 2024