1. just don't accept the invitation. (I used to be a person who flaked almost every time. now I just don't go to things I know I won't enjoy)
2. get your bloodwork done (I put it off, now it bites me in the ass)
3. you don't have to say "sorry" as a sentence opener & you don't have to start your question with "sorry can I ask a question?" just ask. you won't come off as cocky just as confident.
4. buy it if you've been thinking about it for two weeks minimum (even better if it's been month or more)
5. sincerity, vulnerability and curiousity make life interesting. shame, embarassment and awkwardness make life miserable.
6. guilt and pleasure don't go together.
7. nature, man. touch grass, eat fruit.
8. hating someone or something is okay.
9. actually, you're not the person you are at 4 p.m. on a monday. you're the person you are at 3 a.m. on a friday.
10. don't judge. ever. like ever. absolutely never.
May 20, 2024
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I'm of the mind that the fear of being corny or cringe will eventually lead to excessive uniformity and a general aversion to risk taking. Like "such and such is so cringe" so it's probably safer to do nothing instead.
This is impossible to say without mad clichƩs and platitudes but let me try to cook for a second.
I think that detaching yourself from the thoughts of others is very freeing. None of our decisions are made in a vacuum and weāre all going to be influenced by something, but redirecting your thought process back towards "what do EYE like/enjoy?ā and away from "what do other people THINK about the things I like/enjoy?" has become a healthy reset for me.
Iāve also been thinking about the amount of art weāve probably lost out on because someone internalized or felt discouraged by a negative reaction to something that shares a similar vision or concept. I feel that dislike is a guarantee with everything. Itās very easy to do and itās bonding (I do it all the time) but it also helps me realize that there are always going to be things that someone hates and letting that stop you from doing things that bring you joy, will inevitably kill your spirit.
I canāt imagine a world where Viola Davis didnāt cry until she was covered in snot and out of breath, or where Jim Carrey didnāt act with his entire body, or where Madonna never rolled around on stage in a wedding dress. A lot of those choices came from doing what other people at the time wouldnāt do. Behaviors that people believed were worthy of contempt.
Thinking about how if Joni Mitchell didnāt write Blue, Fiona might not have written When The Pawn, and SZA might not have written Ctrl, or what would happen if any of them fell into the belief that honesty and vulnerability were cringeworthy acts or something you should run from.
People respect a full SEND. If thereās a question of whether or not you should send, choose a full send EVERYTIME. None of these people were praised for their vanity or willingness to be reserved, they were praised for the exact opposite.
Feb 28, 2024
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1. always walk there
2. do not wait in line
3. operate in good faith // assume that person doesnāt hate you
4. vegetable or bean in every meal
5. š§āāļø be chill but also run really aggressively fast after your goals
6. and be yourself!!!!! Duh
May 19, 2024
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Put yourself into increasingly mortifying social situations that make you think what am I even doing here and participate fully (bonus if itās performance-arts-related). Remember to take deep breaths! Try to keep in mind that nobody is thinking about you as much as you are thinking about yourself. Develop your self-esteem and believe that though thereās always room for self-improvement, who you are is enough. Trust that most people are kind and understanding and if they arenāt thatās a reflection of their own moral character. The physiological feelings of anxiety might never go away but you can learn to react to them!
Apr 12, 2024
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iām gonna play spider man 2 until i canāt see anymore
Sep 7, 2024
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hey!
I spent numerous of my birthdays alone, so here's what worked for me
1. make a playlist of your favourite songs. literally every song you ever liked from when you were 10 to now.
2. go to your favourite place, but if you don't have one then just go to a park or a museum. I love people watching while listening to music.
3. book a spa day. that one I haven't tried but sounds fun. spa is better in solitude anyway.
4. eat your favourite food. honestly a game changer lol food is the most amazing thing we as species have created.
5. do something you enjoyed as a kid. painting, blowing bubbles, making sand castles. it makes you feel so good, like you're reconnecting with something that's been asleep deep inside you.
6. if you're not scared to talk to strangers then talk with someone you don't know. at a pub or in a line. could be fun.
happy early birthday!
May 17, 2024
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missed me yet? iām back and i love reading these little posts
Aug 16, 2024