Everyone is doing the best they can with the tools they have. That doesn’t excuse being treated poorly, but does allow for empathy.
Everyone is perfect just the way they are, but we could all use a little improvement.
Your ability to self regulate is hugely important.
May 22, 2024
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We all need support, we can’t fully see our issues or wounds. You need to understand the why before you can even know how or what to do differently. A good therapist can help you better understand yourself and guide you in that process. There needs to be action at a certain point. Find ways to practice your new ways of being. New mindsets or habits take practice and time.
It’s important to have grace and empathy for yourself. The things you don’t like may very well be the best you could do with the tools you had.
Jun 7, 2024
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Everyone deserves to acknowledge the things that hurt them and the fact that past traumas can make you anxious/make it more difficult to perform tasks that may seem easy for others. That however, does not mean you should go ahead and use those events as ammunition to excuse yourself from being a kind, respectful human being.
For instance, let's say you have roommates and they've kindly let you know several times that you need to clean up after yourself as the apartment is getting messy and it's a shared space. Despite them asking nicely, you accuse them of triggering you because being told to clean reminds you of the toxic relationship you had with your parents at home. All of a sudden they are now actively attacking your mental health and they have to either clean up after you since you refuse to do so or continue leaving the apartment a mess until you potentially change your mind. (I know this this might seem like an extreme example, but I've witnessed something very similar irl and there's far too many tiktoks of people mentioning similar experiences for me to think this is a singular experience.)
Now look, it is important to inform others of our limitations so that there's less friction as we navigate different environments and work on ourselves, but weaponizing the terminology we learn in therapy or online to victimize yourself and blame others for shrugging off your own responsibilities is far from healing. We share this planet with a bunch of other people, we are not isolated ecosystems. And as much as we can ask others to accommodate us, we must also do some internal work ourselves to meet them halfway.
We all are fighting our own personal demons and merit the space to address them, but there is a massive difference between understanding our issues to heal and grow from them versus using them to excuse destructive actions and accuse others of triggering us for suggesting alternatives/challenging our perspectives.
Nov 27, 2024
I’m very open with the fact that I was in years of intense therapy. I still get tune ups if I need it. I do believe we all have core wounds we’re constantly working on. I also think I’ve grown to be a very healthy person.
I have deep, deep father wounds that are never going to fully heal. I’ve worked on it, and they’re not bothersome most of the time. I recognize when it’s triggered and work through it. I just realize I’m going to probably live with it forever, the hope is that it gets smaller and smaller.
I have a history of abusive relationships that I’ve worked really hard to heal from. Stuff from that typically only comes up during conflict, but I’m aware of it and work on it. Thankfully it comes up with people who love me and that has been so healing.
Going from hyper independence to interdependence and learning to be in process with others has been.. work. But worth it.
I’ve always been incredibly hard on myself if I hurt people- it’s always unintentional, but how dare I be a human who makes mistakes!! I still have to be extra kind to myself and talk myself off the ledge when this comes up. Funny that I found this meme just today lol
Jul 18, 2024
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For some reason this brings me into my parasympathetic nervous system
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FINDING SOMEONE ANNOYING AND IMMEDIATELY REALIZING IT’S BECAUSE THEY REMIND YOU OF YOUR YOUNGER SELF
OH BROTHER THIS GUY actually needs a lot of empathy and understanding
Apr 2, 2025
Breaking my very thin, almost non existent air of mystery because I got a haircut I actually like, my favorite jeans fit again, it’s a full moon eclipse, 70°, and both of my kids’ birthdays are today!! MAGIC IS REAL AND I AM FULL OF LOVE! 💗 💗💗💗💗💗
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