We had friends over the other day and my friend said sheās paying attention to how I mother because she thinks Iām doing a great job and wants to do the same with her future kids. Everyone agreed š„².
Weāre the only one of our friends with kids (3 y/o and almost 3 month old) and to be recognized in a role where the labor often goes unnoticed felt so good. I genuinely delight in my children and love being a mother, but it is 24/7 work. I never dreamt of being a parent but with my own healing and growth I found myself wanting to be. I spent a lot of years working on my own self regulation and studying child development (Iām a child therapist) and that has really been paying off in a way I wasnāt expecting at the time.
When someone gives birth, their brain matter changes to aid in caring for their baby. Iāve been in the thick of that for 3 years now and while I can and do think of other things, my entire being is very much entrenched in āmother,ā and it can be hard to navigate identity outside of it. so to be seen and honored for that felt really special.
May 29, 2024
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Iām not sure Iād really recommend this because itās more exhausting and permanently life-altering than almost any other thing you could imagine. But being a parent connects me to others in a way I had never experienced before having my own kid.
I love every child because I love my child. I believe every person is trying their best, is trying to be good, because I see that in him. I feel connected to the grief and suffering of other parents because I see how to love your child is necessarily to be on the knifeās edge of grief at all times. I have found parenting politically radicalizing because I cannot accept that my child deserves more than other children, that he gets to be safe and fed and surrounded by infinite possibility when most others are not.
Having a kid has not necessarily made me happier, but it has given me a deeper understanding of the human condition, and I am grateful for that.
Mar 16, 2024
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Iām a childrenās therapist and a mother so it quite literally is on my brain 24/7.
Grateful for the duel role because my work makes me a better mother, and being a mother makes me a better therapist.
I could say so much on the subject but I probably wouldnāt stfu so I just wonāt even start š«¶ but if anyone wants to chat Iām always down!
Jul 4, 2024
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Semi-personal post butā¦
We sort of knew for a bit that our daughter had some things that werenāt entirely normal. We finally decided to go get some tests ran and itās turns out that she might have some type of autism or neuro-divergence. This isnāt surprising as Iāve always known that I had some things as a kid that we never got to check out due to our financial situations. After a long zoom call and a few hours of paperwork, our next 2-3 months are filled with doctor appointments and occupational & speech therapy appointments for her.
Now, we have no issue with her being neuro-divergent or even autistic, but if Iām being super honest my initial thought was how this was going to throw off our routine and systems and plans and I had to stop myself and go ??? BRO ??? How wonderful is it that sheās going to get the help I never got!!! How amazing is it that I turned out fine without help; imagine how much better sheās going to be!!! So much support and so much help available today, so different than it was in the early 00ās when I was a kid!!!
Itās a beautiful thing to adjust your perspective and go from what could be a defeating attitude to instead accepting & even celebrating the cards youāve been dealt and not letting them defeat you. Iām excited for her and our family and I canāt wait to see what this process is like and how much better life is going to be for her. Until then, Iāll listen to her monologue entirely Bluey episodes start-to-finish because she memorizes them all??? Amazing. Wonderful. Love her so much.
Jan 7, 2025
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This has become the norm and every day I grow more disturbed. I understand if somebody is behaving in a harmful way, that is good to document and put out there. But as a whole, it seems, we have become so comfortable with recording people just living their lives. I saw a video of a guy working and the caption of the video was that he was so hot, we needed to find him!!! Why are you providing the Internet with his face and location instead of just going up to talk to him? I saw another of two people on the subway, seemingly a couple, having a very emotional moment. How would you feel if you open up an app and saw a video like that of yourself? I donāt like this level of sibling society surveillance. Why are you videoing an elderly person with sad music dubbed over it to gain likes? It is WEIRD. Donāt even get me started on videos of children. It is WEIRD to use a stranger without their consent to get some kind of fake validation. Get a life.
I donāt mean to come on here and share something so negative, I just donāt have anywhere else to put it and itās gnawing at me.
Oct 7, 2024
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Itās to keep us humble otherwise weād be TOO hot/sexy/cool
Jul 3, 2024