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ins and outs

a combination of both goals and predictions for this year in: listening to movie soundtracks and scores mixing patterns finding passion for old hobbies loose leaf teas  the beach boys  coordinated outfits with the gals  scheduled reoccurring hangouts parker posey movies vine references  nonfiction books and leisurely research picking a general area to eat at and not a specific restaurant  setting up your friends  bikes mocktails carrying drinks in mugs outside the house out: relationships of ambiguous nature criticizing modern art without researching the background behind the pieces  political jargon  letterboxd one liners  cocaine street interviews men calling their gfs “this one” hardcover books weaponized incompetence  only saving media electronically  having a superiority complex over consuming less digital media (you can still learn things through digital mediums!!)

@asquared

Jan 15, 2025

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ins & outs / 2025

in  creating for fun — alone & w/friends sharing online without self judgement  flirting w/no expectation deactivating w/no reason intentional friendships community as a verb following my own timeline completing books mindful journaling collecting hobbies like shells straightforwardness  game nights  internal validation thoughtful approach to physical affection home cooked meals asking for favors  financial independence  multiple streams of income  healthy dose of delusion  intense eye contact  intentional dates  out over self indulgence in rest  non reciprocal relationships over explaining  overthinking shit that doesn’t require an overthought  self inflicted emotional sadism  frivolous spending  babying men — in the workplace & in friendships  keeping clothing items that have been unworn for months  random hookups  living paycheck to paycheck keeping the peace in toxic environments wishing ppl who did you wrong well after (in fact were not even gonna wish them anything) after hours 

@rayfulosunshine

Jan 23, 2025

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ins and out (a work in progress)

INS/ trend forecast  -funk/disco music revival  -late 60s- early 80s style comeback  -red  -face masks  -peel off polaroids  -stripes & florals  -physical media, DVDs  -adventuring in your home town  -tortoiseshell pattern> cheetah/leopard  -medieval revival brought into the mainstream  -gold>silver  -shopping mall revival  -signet rings  -meditation  -having your own thoughts  -sport: climbing (outfits worn as everyday style too) -handwritten recipes  -recording studios  -loungewear: grey varsity sweaters and black thongs  -honesty and kindness  -petitions and marches for things you believe in  -making the most of alone time  OUTS -men wearing carabiners  -embarrassment  -people taking to me about their situationships (leave me alone pls! i don’t have advice)  -flat shoes (sambas/ballet flats)  -speaking too loudly  -smoking (& vaping)  -overconsumption  -letting the far right take over  -drinking at every event  -driving lessons (only until they go right)  (any more suggestions?!)

@imissboygenius444

Jan 19, 2025

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Community

i know it sounds so cliché but i work for a climate organisation & i just came home from a work event so i’m feeling very inspired/energised/refreshed…please find your community because it is tiring, draining, & almost impossible to drive social change alone. you don’t have to do it alone. A community helps your cause. We protest, meet, rally, & cry in numbers for this reason. 💜

@addycyl

Jun 29, 2024

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letting go of perfectionism

i am starting to realise how detrimental & unfair it is to not only myself but also the people around me because i then hold them to unreachable standards. we are learning!! not there yet but slowly and surely

@addycyl

Jul 2, 2024

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The performance of boyhood

i really also think about how much boys are taught ways to perform masculinity & how it is legitimised through tangible things like building a career etc but with women i find that from a young age our identity, behaviours, & thoughts are always spoken about in relation to other people/things — gender roles within the family, how we’re perceived by men, our friendships with other women, our relationships with material things etc etc — and this shows up in the labels that women are often given too! so and so is someone’s daughter, girlfriend, wife, mother etc etc. i envy the freedom of boyhood so much, the freedom to just be (this is not to discount the toxicity of traditional masculinity, i just think that boys are still afforded more “play” and therefore have more opportunities to develop their sense of self). maybe i am also biased because of how i’ve grown up & whatnot but i never really understood what it meant to quote unquote be a woman or perform femininity. i only saw this modelled within my nurturing friendships with women as i’ve gotten older but when i was younger, in church it was always “ok well don’t do this or that because x y z will happen to men if you do” or within my extended family it was often “are you seeing anyone? when are you having kids”. damn what happened to asking about how i’m doing or what my dreams are!!! long rant sorry !! but that’s my long winded way of saying “i feel you” haha

@addycyl

Jun 28, 2024

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