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Rec'd on 🪁 Relate with this jealousy of mine pls

honestly i did not feel jealous of boys upbringing because of how i watched my younger brother growing up he was beat a lot as a kid and as a girl, i was beat maybe like 4x in my life but he got it more often and much worse as a member of the black community i believe that a lot of the older generation saw pain as a tool to create discipline and to be able to withstand that pain meant you were strong and if you could not meant you were weak and required MORE pain at least that how i see it after growing up there is also a layer of PTSD (post traumatic slave disorder) but i wont go too deep into it other than that- my upbringing was also pretty neutral so i had no reason to be jealous i still played a lot with my brother, the boy cousins and my boy friends we wrestled, did a lot of "run if you can" games in the woods, played "adventure" where we would literally get lost exploring and then by some divine intervention one of us would remember how to get back home

@briwoot

Jun 28, 2024

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@zara

Thank you so much for sharing this perspective on this thread - I really appreciate you being so open. This is super interesting and definitely a lot for me to think about. Nostalgia is such an interesting phenomenon and I’m really lucky that my experience of it is kind of linear lol. Thank you ❤️

Jun 29, 2024

@briwoot

zara ofc! and thank you for your post and sharing your perspective! i really loved this question i think it gives a good opportunity to look back at gender roles as they relate to children and the differing experiences that shape us based on said roles

Jun 29, 2024

@taterhole

Boyhood and girlhood are so culturally dependent and can carry such significant baggage with them it’s kind of heartbreaking the way adults try to shape children into what they think that should look like. thank you for sharing your perspective 💖

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