The first one that came to mind: Growing up, I never really got any props or gold stars for the stuff I did. You know that whole "I'm proud of you" thing? Yeah, never heard it. And now it's like I've got this annoying voice in my head always whispering "you're not good enough." I mean, I've got a decent job, make good money, but there's always this feeling like I don't deserve any of it. Like I'm some kind of impostor and any day now everyone's gonna figure out there are way better people who could do my job. It's exhausting, honestly. And don't even get me started on compliments. When someone says something nice, I just freeze up. No clue how to react. It's like my brain short-circuits or something.
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confession time !!
I feel extraordinarily mediocre at everything I do. it’s everywhere: english class, hockey practice, every social interaction I’ve ever experienced. I always hear “you’re doing just fine”, but that feels like what they say to 8 year olds who can’t read yet. it’s like Im always 1 step behind being “impressive”. why do I want that for myself anyway? I choke on the feeling of being average so viscerally, that I become just so.
anyway, if this is relatable to anyone the most helpful advice I’ve ever received on the matter is to shut up! stop comparing yourself to everyone around you!
thanks :)
Feb 7, 2025
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I notice it the most when people receive good things from other people. I think it's an offense, not only to yourself, but to the people who care about you as well. They have a nice image of you in their head. By saying you don't deserve it, etc., you undermine your own image and you question their perspective on you. Why wouldn't you trust them? If somebody decided to spend their money on you on a night out with nothing in exchange but company, wouldn't that be nice? The thought that you went out that day and that was enough justification for someone to deem you worthy of a nice meal. You were you and that's all it mattered.
Some may think it's narcissistic to think this way, or some may think I'm attaching the value people have of themselves to other people. I think it's about finding a balance. The value in the every day, hence the people surrounding you. Then again, if their heads went straight to these negative thoughts, they're probably self-deprecating themselves. Why would I trust that?
Give yourself the grace you deserve by honoring the people who love you most.
Oct 22, 2024
but it does, it does kill my confidence, bum me out, anger me, utter disappointment. i think because i know i'm wonderful, or at least good enough...
Nov 21, 2024
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The best advice I've found, especially as a perfectionist. As someone who always strives for flawlessness, I've realized this mindset can often hold me back. It's easy to get caught up in making everything just right, but that can lead to never finishing projects or, worse, never starting them. This advice reminds me to focus on completion rather than perfection. It's about making progress and not letting the fear of imperfection paralyze you. You can always refine and improve something once it exists, but you can't improve what you haven't created yet. It's about striking a balance between quality and actually getting things done
Jul 17, 2024
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My grandpa once told me:
"Live a worthy life. What makes a life worthy is something only you can define for yourself. So, live a life that feels meaningful to you, as long as it does not prevent others from living theirs. Don't let others define what a worthy life means for you. If for you, a worthy life means building a large family, build it; if it means earning a billion dollars, pursue that goal with all your might; if it means making as many memories as you can, go ahead; if it means being religious and praising God, do so. Live your worthy life and ignore anyone who tells you otherwise."
I couldn't find this quote anywhere so I think it was his own wisdom. Rest in Peace grandpa❤️
Jun 8, 2024
