I actually don’t have curly hair, but my son has your exact same hair type so here is what we do:
1. Always brush it wet. Never brush it dry. Start from the bottom and work your way up to prevent pain and breakage.
2. After you wash, put in a leave in conditioner. All the products I use for him are geared towards kids so I won’t even recommend but I’m sure you can get good recommendations for that elsewhere. I usually pull all of the excess water out while I am running this through.
3. After that, I use a gel and scrunch from the ends up. His hair is still wet while I do this, but not sopping. I usually have him flip his head over and I shake at the roots to give some volume.
4. When he’s older, I might start drying with a diffuser, but he’s only three so I don’t really see the need.
To refresh on non-wash days, I just spray it down and brush. I sometimes add more gel, sometimes I don’t. I don’t really think it needs the gel daily.
He gets compliments on his hair all the time. I’m very envious.