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i have gotten a new fridge and a new stove from two different landlords this way - completely free of charge!! asking as an action opens the door for new connections and perspectives and is a much better alternative to feeling like you have to somehow assert your will on others to make your way through the world safely or successfully. it also is true that people love to share and talk about themselves, so asking is a great way to start out an interaction.
this sentiment is predicated upon the belief that people are good and want to help ! and that we can accomplish more together.
just thinking about this bc i called this antique shop and asked about an item i unfortunately left behind </3 but the person on the phone was more than happy to help, and my day is improved because 1) i tried and 2) i had a positive conversation with another person.
prescribing this as the cure to social anxiety for myself
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Always ask. People want to say yes. And they will more than you would think.
Aug 28, 2024
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Sometimes I think people miss the social part of asking people questions, if the person knows the answer or not there’s a lot of opportunities for jokes, improv, information, and researching together.
Feb 12, 2025
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i try really hard to ask interesting questions — mainly because I hate small talk but also because a great question opens many doors and rabbit holes. a great question can catch people off guard, make them think and helps you learn so much about who they are and what they value. so when people say this to me, I won’t lie it feels great
Jan 3, 2025
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chicago hang success !! it was so lovely to meet everyone today <3 more plans incoming soon 📥mossyelfiejoe_m_millerbashfulchicken
Aug 18, 2024
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for my 100th rec i am proposing a chicago meetup sometime this summer, inspired by other city rendezvous(es?) ~~~ would love to meet some of u lovely people in person! comment if you’re interested we can brainstorm places 2 go 💫
Jun 15, 2024
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if you are in the metro chicago area pls join us at central park bar in avondale next saturday, august 17 at 4pm. mossyelfiethickrimmedgirlronen and i will be there for sure ! here is the discord for chat ! pls come join us !!
Aug 11, 2024