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allocating more than just a few pinterest ideas and aesthetics in order to curate a style that youāre confident in will make you stand out. whether you think thatās a good or bad thing, by āstand outā i mean people catch a glimpse of you and immediately know who you are based on how you dress. thereās nothing wrong with going with a trend if you like it, but itās so painful to see people consume for the sake of consumption. i mean thatās a concept for a whole other rec in itself, but what iām trying to get at is you donāt need to constantly use outfit inspo pics for outfit inspo. seek your surroundings, ponder your past, think about yourself as a piece of art, which you ultimately are. donāt avoid wearing the statement piece that a stranger would find weird, theyāre probably just pissy. dress the fuck up on days you donāt need to just for the hell of it.
and remember, donāt get discouraged if the first ācrazyā fit you throw on looks like shit. it takes time to make art!
and if you feel comfortable and beautiful in simpler articles, and youāre not into anything too bold or loud, still make it your look. art doesnāt have to be complex, but make each choice have purpose. why choose one blank white tee over another? is it a specific hue of white? does it compliment other features of your outfit? is it comfy as fuck? show that to people and make them know itās you. you donāt need to dress to impress, but god if you bought that shirt only because your favorite influencer promoted it, or even worse if you bought it just because it was on a sale rack, youāre disrespecting your canvas! itās like pissing on a van gogh oil paintingā it might look amazing but you canāt help but think about the fact that thereās piss on it.
that brings me to probably the most widespread concern of consumers: cost. yes, higher quality products are going to cost more. itās difficult in such a dense place like SoCal(where iām from) to find cheap ANYTHING. i split a dozen dumplings for $20 the other day with a friend and i swear i couldāve called 911 on this food-influencer-aimed āchineseā restaurant for highway robbery. food was pretty good tho canāt lie. however, that doesnāt mean that itās impossible to find incredible clothing from staple secondhand stores like Goodwill. several friends of mine have landed at their unique styles that can be associated directly to them, and their closets are mostly filled with Goodwill Bins finds. āohhhh the Bins are so dirtyyy eewwwwā yeah if you canāt dig through some used clothing for a while donāt complain about not being able to afford those $600 shitstained acne jeans. i mightāve gotten a little personal with that. lmk your thoughts on fashion and what it means to you!
you know what fuck it just wear sweatpants a sweatshirt and flip flops lifeās not that serious
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In the years of 2020-2023, I was in my early 20s and very much in between aesthetics. I hated the clothes I wore, and was looking for new ways to express myself through my fashion. With the seemingly never slowing down trend cycle that was going at the speed of light at that time, and my tiny paychecks, I basically solely relied on Shein to allow me some freedom and creativity with my style. For a few years, I was stuck in the repeated cycle of ordering 50+ cheap items, and then donating 10-20 of them within the same year, and repeating that again when I would get bored of what I had. I would go thrifting too to try and "balance out" my fast fashion endeavors, but would end up buying more things that I hated by the time I got home. I could not figure out how to make any of these items work with my wardrobe, regardless if they were new or used. This reckless consumerism taught me absolutely nothing about my sense of style. I had to figure out the hard way that style is not something you acquire overnight, and that you cannot always rely on trends to find items you will like for a lifetime. Fast fashion has done nothing but taught us to cycle through clothing at a rate where no one can keep up, and has left many of us in a place where we are only satisfied with how we dress for no longer than a few months at a time.
Discovering your personal style is one of the things that should take time.
I'm 25 now, and I find it very important to source good quality items that I know will be a staple in my wardrobe for a long long time. I've decided that if I want to buy new clothing, I will get most of my new clothes from thrift/vintage shops and boutiques (online or in person). I haven't completely shuttered out fast fashion, though. I only buy items that I am able to try on in person to make sure it is made with good material (aka: the plain $10 Walmart zip-up hoodies that feel like butter). By embracing a slower approach to finding my personal style, I've found quite a few key items that I really love to wear over the past two years, and in turn I have greatly reduced the amount of clothing that gets donated. I am still learning how to accessorize, and am trying my best to utilize as much of my existing closet as possible. It is a journey! I can't wait to see where my more sustainable approach to a style journey brings me!
QUALITY > QUANTITY
Feb 12, 2025
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god i could really write a whole essay on this
for context, iām studying pattern cutting and have been really into/very specific about my clothes forever but have known fashion since maybe 15-16
because of how i fit into the clothes-scape my tastes cannot be separated from trends whether i like it or not. how i dress is rather on trend lately tbh
over the years my pants have gotten bigger as i grow more accustomed to the comfort of having less fabric on your body + the dynamism of a wide leg in the somewhat constrained silhouettes of menswear. also inextricable from wider pants just becoming more a part of the collective consciousness and thus my consciousness
my tops have gotten smaller & tighter as i've grown more confident and comfortable with my body. still love a baggy vintage tee when itās warm though
maybe best way is to talk my fav clothes and why theyāre my fav clothes:
- plasticana clogs. super california shoe but also like a half clog half loafer. i love heeled shoes i think theyāre more elegant and just more smooth so iāve worn loafers mostly for the last 6 years. these are like if those felt like sneakers to me. so easy so comfy
- fadepants cords. super baggy, so fucking comfortable. really dynamic shape with a lot of personality. they just feel right
- slim gildan tees. they remind me of the artist guy in Blow-Up and the way that guy looks reminds me of the energy we all used to have in the wood/metalshops at parsons, functional dress
- hanes beaters. so new york summer. also i love how they fit me they flatter my build
- oakley sunglasses. indestructible. ridiculous shape in a way i can own. michael jordan wore them in the 90ās and i love basketball & his game
- bandanas. remind me of home. remind me of my gay ass new york friends. a lot of them were from home too but i met them all in new york. funny how life works. they suit my hair well when i donāt feel like wearing a hat or i havenāt got time for a shower, and itās very windy in stratford a hat might blow off
- 90ās vintage snapbacks. they fit over my hair thatās really the only reason
- our legacy borrowed bd shirt. it reminds me of the shirts my friend katie wears and those shirts are aggressively northern california. so is this one. and itās just cute
- supreme leather collar work jacket. has all of the pockets, and the roundness/diesel type fit that a new yorkerās jacket would have. and that makes me happy. form + function
i think right now my style is in a pretty solid place of amalgamating the things that make me me, between upbringing, interests, places iāve lived + the things iāve taken from them, queerness, and my growing understanding of how all the things i wear are made. feeling really good about it all. want to figure out how to wear 90ās retro basketball sneakers though because theyāre something iāve loved forever and im a huge basketball fan but theyāve just never felt right when i tried them, except foamposites. personal style is a neverending pursuit if youāre doing it right
May 14, 2024
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Putting on clothes is one of the few built- in ways to have fun and be creative in your life without going out of your way to pick up a hobby or pursue a creative passion or career. Itās how you start your day, every day. So take advantage of it! So much of life is about practicality, because the implications of risk-taking have real impacts on your life ā makes sense. Exploring and taking ārisksā with your style is a fairly low-stakes way to break from that a bit and let loose.Ā¹ Now, Iām not saying you should go from full norm-core to runway fashion. But for godās sake, it wouldnāt kill you to try on a couple statement pieces and see what magic may happen! Picking from a stable of staples is boring, like eating the same meal every day. Sure, that meal might be comfortable and filling, but is it FULfilling? So many people make up rules for themselves (āthis color isn't good on meā) and they end up arbitrarily limiting themselves.Ā² If you like the color, it can look good on you!
Now if you wanna dabble, try getting a themed party going. Itās easier to take the plunge when everyone else is doing it, and itās almost impossible not to have fun dressing up in something novel. Try thrifting with a friend that is either already more exploratory than you or open to changing things up. Itās fun as hell to try stuff on, even if you donāt buy anything! Also, hot tip for the people who wear āmenāsā clothesā¦ the womenās section is way better!Ā³ So much more variety in style, shape, fabric, etc.
I was going to write more but Iām sick as a dog right now. In conclusion, have fun ā„ļø
P.S. This is in no way a personal dig at anyone who has a Superman closet. Just trying to encourage those who might wanna take a bolder step!
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Ā¹The degree of this is certainly dependent on who you are, where you are ā what pressures youāre facing.
Ā²These types of rules may be culturally-imposed and personally internalized, so no shame there.
Ā³This may be more restrictive for bigger bois, which points to an issue in womenās wear: they donāt make nearly as much variety in larger sizes, which is bullshit š«¤
May 5, 2024
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their new single thatās preceding the next album drop is also pretty incredible, in which it seems like the trash men have righted the mess with a much ācleanerā sound this time around.
gotta say, i also just love french singing. no wonder why Pomplamoose has a new viral video every other moon
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iāve seen this movie twice now, and although some scenes are awfully hard to watch, the camerawork and symbolism is amazing. itās masterfully written with both high intensity and comedic moments. if you can handle blood and guts and body horror vfx, you need to watch this film. i would say that the first watch felt very long, but watching it again definitely gave me another perspective.
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