It is actually very unnatural to not feel any anger. Anger is a sign that something is not right. If you have not felt any anger, it is probably because you had been taught to repress it.
From personal experience, it is going to suck for a little bit. When I finally got in touch with my anger, I had been repressing it for 25 years and it felt like it was seeping out of my pores. It felt so unnatural to who I was, but I could not stop it. positive side of this is that I was working with the therapist and I was able to come out the other side. I now understand my anger a lot better and I know how to handle it when I do get angry. It becomes a passing emotion now and not one that I get stuck in.
Remember that this is temporary. Find places to channel it. Work with your therapist to get to the root of why you have all of this anger built up and address it there. It’s important that you treat it at the surface level, but if you don’t get to the bottom of it, you won’t actually integrate it and transform it.
This is part of continuing to grow into a whole human being! Exciting stuff, although it is hard and not always fun. I believe in you though!!
Nov 21, 2024
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As a recovering people-pleaser, turns out the whole world doesn’t fall apart if instead of suppressing anger I actually let myself feel it from time to time 🫨
Dec 7, 2024
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i could never understand why i lacked the tools to distance myself from people who hurt me and kept hurting me. i’d always go back, i’d always “forgive,” and i’d always fawn (try and be better because it’s obviously my fault i wasn’t perfect, duh.) .
there has been a recent shift in my life where i will feel physically angry when i’m subjected to mistreatment. sometimes i’ll put it aside in favor of my fears but sometimes i feel it and let it be.. and when i do, i find i have the power to uphold simple boundaries that protect me from the mistreatment. it’s the darndest thing (would you believe it if i said i’m black?)
Apr 24, 2024
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perhaps the greatest challenge in my life is this one. i can name one or two times in my life when i felt truly angry at someone--it always manifests as sadness. im trying to learn how to be angry at people, how to feel safe being angry, and how to embrace anger. it's hard !!
Feb 18, 2024
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This has become the norm and every day I grow more disturbed. I understand if somebody is behaving in a harmful way, that is good to document and put out there. But as a whole, it seems, we have become so comfortable with recording people just living their lives. I saw a video of a guy working and the caption of the video was that he was so hot, we needed to find him!!! Why are you providing the Internet with his face and location instead of just going up to talk to him? I saw another of two people on the subway, seemingly a couple, having a very emotional moment. How would you feel if you open up an app and saw a video like that of yourself? I don’t like this level of sibling society surveillance. Why are you videoing an elderly person with sad music dubbed over it to gain likes? It is WEIRD. Don’t even get me started on videos of children. It is WEIRD to use a stranger without their consent to get some kind of fake validation. Get a life.
I don’t mean to come on here and share something so negative, I just don’t have anywhere else to put it and it’s gnawing at me.
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I’m curious what your brains are like
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