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forgetting you’re an actual adult

yesterday i went to work, after work i went to the gym, after the gym i filled my car with petrol, i then went home, made dinner, had a shower, and then tucked myself into bed. all by myself. no parent to drive me around or make me dinner. no parent to financially support me. just me going to work so i can fund my life while also trying to fit in things that will make me a functional member of society. no goodnight kiss on the forehead. just me alone, being an adult. some days don’t feel real, and it’s the days when i realise i really have grown up and now have actual responsibilities. where did the time go

@jilly

Feb 18, 2025

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Growing up

maybe it’s just that i’m young enough that the novelty hasn’t worn off yet but i love becoming more of an adult every year. as a teenager i was so terrified of not being one anymore but i love being in my twenties so far. so much of it is hard and uncomfortable and there’s so much uncertainty and still! i wouldn’t go back ever ever ever. i have more perspective to weather the uncertainty better, i’m so much less insecure and preoccupied with how i come off to other people, and if i want to change my behavior or my life i have so much more freedom to do it! and i’ll only get more conscious and more interesting as i get older! how fucking cool. also as someone who really had to grow into my features it’s a nice bonus that i’ll probably get hotter and have better skin as i get older.

@sleeperhit

Feb 13, 2025

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Best things about getting older

i’m 36 and here’s what i can share: i’ve realized that aging is a gift, tomorrow is not guaranteed. so do your best to live in the now, don’t worry too much about the future. realizing you are your own north star. trust your gut and intuition, you know yourself best which means you know what’s best for you. getting comfier in my own skin. i stopped wearing makeup on a daily basis in 2019 and have grown to love the way my face looks without makeup. becoming very good at cooking. i started cooking in my early 20s and have only gotten better in the ensuing decade. take a knife skills class! try out recipes left and right. borrow cookbooks from the library! earning every single one of my smile lines and wrinkles because my face is expressive and i’ve lived my life. my tolerance for bullshit has greatly shrunk. actively learning not to be a people pleaser (i am still working on this). getting so much better with my finances that money doesn’t stress me out like it used to. really embracing my own personal style. realizing that as a short queen, i needed to get my clothes tailored and slowly building a wardrobe that fits me like a custom glove. getting better at saying “no”, setting boundaries, protecting my space and my peace, and being a clearer communicator. learning that there are ways to get enough fiber in your diet other than eating salad (although i make a very good salad). setting traditions so that you’ll have a way of marking the passage of time. for example, i always make a very complex gazpacho in August when tomato season is reaching its midwestern peak.

@salad_valet

Feb 17, 2025

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walkable cities

that’s it. as society strays further from physical connection & closeness, i experience sheer joy simply walking alongside strangers. it’s easier to feel a sense of belonging when you are shoulder to shoulder, not bumper to bumper.

@m3gan

Dec 14, 2024

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The gays

life would be so boring without the queer community let’s admit it.

@m3gan

Dec 22, 2024

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writing out feelings

when people used to say “you should journal!” i would be like yeah, yeah whatever. it’s funny looking back on it, because now whenever i get a single thought in my head, i have to write it down. it can be difficult for me to identify my emotions, but seeing bits of my thoughts, written and scattered about, allows me to solve the puzzle piece that is my complex (& crazy) mind. 🪐

@m3gan

Dec 21, 2024