Ok corny self-aggrandizing post incoming. I started transitioning this year. I've known I was trans since 2019 but was too scared to do anything about it (lived in a red state) and have been taking miniscule, tiny, baby steps to get little tastes of validation and living off of those crumbs. This year something switched in my brain and I finally pulled the trigger and started hormones, got a trans-focused therapist, joined a support group, really leaned in. It goes against all of the self-preservation instincts I've developed my whole life, but I feel... great? I felt like time was going in fast-forward for the past several years and now I feel like I have all the time in the world. Anyway, TLDR I guess, finally took the big leap I was terrified to take and made my life way better.
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this year so far has been a LOT
lots of saying no
lots of fighting my old habits
lots of doing things that make me uncomfy
and this has all culminated into a totally different person
its so cray z
Jun 5, 2024
I turned 21 in february 2020, so, ya know. My world changed quick.
But truly I just remember trying various things, trying to define and undefine myself. Feeling what it felt like to stick to my guns, then readjust them. I was in the middle of what would be a 2.5 year relationship. I didn't kid myself with picturing a big future anymore than what was sweet, which was wonderful. I was living with a partner for the first time and felt like I knew what to do, like I was experienced enough for all the problems which faced me. but really I was just experienced enough to start so many things.
I was constantly bouncing between total pride and complete faliure. Playing house in a house I was actually renting with friends. Experimenting with what grocery shopping for myself meant to my life, redifining how I was going to live my days in the future.
The best thing I did in my 21st year of life was not be too mean to myself for not committing, and just committing to new things. I would go dance in the park, go on walks, edit music. All things I wish I did on the regular but regardless, by trying new things, it made it so much easier to pick them up, because I had a frame of reference for the world.
I loved being 20, as depressed as I was. That specific creativity is gone. But now I am 25 and know how to weild my own magic. The depth I have always felt within my soul has farther definition. Its like I put on glasses in a 7th dimention. Don't underestimate the beautiful growth ahead. Yes you are an adult, equipped hopefully to start so many new things. But keep up that internal work, and the years will be bountiful towards true inner peace.
And soo many more new tools to better learn how to tackle issues while still feeling like yourself.
u got this. stay true to urself but be flexibl with redifining who that is.
x
Jun 12, 2024
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9 - started playing trombone, was the first yr i wasn‘t moving around between schools (district lines and stuff are stupid and classist), the jack johnson/curious george song was popping off (other good songs too obv), and spent my days playing on the lawn with my friends and talking to my crush until i got my seat moved. True bliss!
21 - Got to live in seattle for an internship, came back to LA and had my own room and only one roommate(!), was slutting myself out (i wanted to seriously date but the girls i was with didnt want anything serious, so i had to just go with it), going out with friends most of the week, and i had my whole career set up post graduation from undergrad! then covid hit so it went downhill but it allowed me to be more thoughtful about myself and my future
25 - that cortex development went crazy and I finally feel the most together I’ve ever felt. Really leaned into trying out all the hobbies I can to figure out what I like. Have a newfound appreciation for existing and knowing more of what i want from me and my relationships.
Truly can’t wait to keep growing up!
Apr 1, 2024
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I've been kinda obsessed with this album This Could Be Texas by English Teacher recently. Something about angsty british people singing over lush instrumentals just hits every time. If this is your vibe, the song 7 Seconds by Porridge Radio is a good jumping point.
https://open.spotify.com/album/4gd3XcQ7dR37m8GimBfiYT?si=qncfnpw5QGuM9ADmBm32XA
Dec 18, 2024
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Hi!! I’ve lived in brooklyn for a few years and part of living here is that you become effectively a part-time airbnb for all your friends when they come to NY. So I feel like i’ve seen the good and bad ways to visit.
10 days is a nice chunk of time! i think the most important thing is to pick 1 area or neighborhood and plan your days around that. like spend a day doing all the little shops in williamsburg, do a park slope / brooklyn museum day, etc.
The “perfect day for first-timers” that i take my friends when they visit me for the first time: Get a cute little lunch at Cafe Gitanne in Dumbo, go to the little dumbo shops - Front General (both locations), Natural Selection, Hudson Wilder. Then take the ferry to greenpoint - you get to see the entire skyline and it’s literally $4. Get pierogis and borscht from pierozek. Go to the greenpoint bars, end up at three-decker diner in the middle of the night.
also go to rolo’s and get the polenta flatbread!!!!
Jan 17, 2025
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like this place is such a source of comfort for me, especially right now when other social websites feel like microdosing panic attacks. so I'll gladly pay a few dollars a month to keep it alive! I do know that PI has also been around as a newsletter for a while before the social site became a thing so I think they were already kinda established as a brand.
Feb 3, 2025