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relationship is scary, because the more you open yourself up to people, the easier it is for you to get hurt. by letting people into your life, you gave them the power to hurt you. sometimes though, we only focus on us letting them in and not the other way around. because when you really think about it, those people who strip themselves bare in front of you, also give you that same power that you’re scared to give.
so really. what’s scarier than letting people in, is our own selfishness. we’re sometimes too busy to live in our bubble, focusing more on our own feelings and safety that we, oftentimes, ignore the power that we hold to hurt someone around us.
and when you continue to do that, you may end up hurting the people that you hold dear, without intentionally doing so.
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fellow humans deserve mercy. we all make mistakes, we all have bad days where we can’t be our true selves. you can miss something beautiful by permanently closing the door. it will make you vulnerable to pain, yes. but when i think about it a lot of my most meaningful relationships happened because i forgave and was forgiven, because of patience, heartiness and faith.
Jul 20, 2024
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This was really impactful for me; the analogy is, your life/your heart is a room (or an apartment, a space, etc) and relationships are all about inviting people into that room. Intimacy is letting them into the room and knowing that they might touch stuff, move furniture around, or change the way you’ve laid the room out. Transparency is letting people see the room, but keeping a glass between them and the space— they can see, but not touch. I think relationally we all have impulses toward transparency instead of intimacy, and it’s easy to say “I let you look at my room, that was intimacy,” while maintaining the glass that separates people from the room. Be intimate! Let people pick up the tchotchkes in your heart and move the furniture.
May 28, 2024
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When you are vulnerable you also open yourself to good stuff.
Dec 9, 2024
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i have always known this. that people come and go. but it was only recently that this statement really… struck me. i guess that no matter how much you want people to stay in your life, sometimes it‘s just inevitable. though it was hard at first to let go of ‘your person’, i also realized that relationships are maintained by more than just one person.
so no matter how much you want to keep those people in your life, to save the relationship and connection that you have, at the end of the day, they also have a say in what they feel and what they want. and if what they want is to be out of your life, then the best thing that you could do is to accept and respect that.
it’s the best thing that you could do. not only for them, but also for you.
Dec 31, 2024
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nothing beats the aftermath feeling of hanging out with your homies that you haven’t seen for a long while, knowing that you had a well spent day with the right people.
my heart is full.
Jan 3, 2025
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just turned 23 today!
i feel like you always got these existential crisis in your early twenties. (or is that just me?)
but the number 23 is particularly such a strange age.
you feel confused about in which end of the spectrum that you fell in. you are no longer considered to be a teen, but you also don’t have much of a responsibility to be called an adult just yet. you’re an in-between.
i guess i can relate to when mark hoppus sang what’s my age again, which legit sums up the whole confusion in being the age of 23. of still feeling like you’re not an adult just yet, but also forced to act your age.
peter pan complex really does exist huh?
Jan 1, 2025