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OPERATING FROM THE INSIDE OUTWARDS, INSTEAD OF THE OUTSIDE-IN

I've recently realized that, despite my consistent efforts to be authentic, I've still been structuring a lot of my goals and presentation based on what other people will think of me. It's all rooted in impressing others, because I worry that people won't like me if I don't impress them. It's not something I've been doing consciously, though. I think it is deeply ingrained with so many people my age because we grew up with social media. At 23, I'm only just beginning to understand how this may have really warped my brain. Additionally, I think a lot of family structures and the school system function this way. There is so much pressure to be "successful" in society. I have always supported the idea of other people expressing themselves without having to worry about being "cringe" or embarrassing, but I haven't been living it myself. I would love to strip back all the layers of expectations that have been painted onto me until I find who is really underneath again.

@gforce2001

Dec 27, 2024

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BEING YOUR MOST AUTHENTIC SELF

I read a TikTok slideshow about how we attach our personalities to the things we buy like Labubu’s, matcha, vintage clothing, etc., etc. and it really woke me up. It made me realize how often we treat objects like identity badges, hoping they’ll somehow communicate who we are to the world. But maybe we don’t need to buy a personality. Maybe it’s okay to just be you without the aesthetic, without the branding, without needing to “match” a vibe. The phrase “to be cringe is to be free” has been living rent-free in my head, and honestly, it resonates. Because at the end of the day, who really cares what other people think? Okay, I do sometimes. I’m human. But when I quiet the noise, I know the truest version of myself isn’t curated, it’s just me. Messy, weird, sincere. And I think that’s enough. We’re not the sum of what we consume. We’re allowed to just exist, unbranded, unfiltered, and still whole. I think I’m not my truest self yet, but I’m getting there and I really do hope my truest self reflects beautifully to the people around me.

@PigsCanDream

Jun 23, 2025

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GO IT ALONE

Who are you when you aren’t acting the way your friends expect you to? Free from that possibly subconscious pressure what do you do? You can’t exist in a vacuum because we are human beings and socially conditioned (not always a bad thing!) but you can get close when you change up your situation. Observe yourself closely.. where is the divergence between what you think of yourself and what you actually do? Would you have done the same thing in front of your friends? Your parents? Personally I am wildly different with my family, friends, and alone. I like the solo version of myself the best, so I try to spend as much time with him as possible. This isn’t to say that who you are with others isn’t who you are, that’s an important part of you too!! But if you’re looking to understand yourself as an individual then you need to understand as many aspects as you can. Most people do not do activities alone so I think it is a great place to start.

@grape

May 10, 2025

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A Cup of tea scientifically makes us feel less lonely

Something cool I learnt recently is the theory of social thermoregulation. It’s a concept that suggests warmth, whether physical or social, can influence our feelings of connection and emotional well-being. The theory, in essence, proposes that our brains are wired to perceive warmth as a form of social comfort. When we feel physically warm—like when we’re holding a hot cup of tea—our brains associate that sensation with social closeness and feelings of security, even if we’re by ourselves. Next time you’re feeling a bit lonely or disconnected, consider reaching for a cup of tea—not just for the taste or the comfort it offers, but for the warmth that could scientifically be helping your brain feel less isolated.

@sophiafone

Jan 14, 2025

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Conversations after sex

I think I’m obsessed with the way people talk after sex. The rawness of it, the unraveling. Not sex itself—no, sex is almost always… not what you think it’ll be. It’s not what movies promised or what your own mind built it up to be. It’s hands and limbs and sometimes good, sometimes okay, sometimes you’re just waiting for it to end. But, the moments after. It’s messy, but not in the way sex is messy. It’s messy in the way people are messy, when their guard drops and the words spill out in no particular order. The room smells like skin and warmth and whatever happened before, and somehow, this feels more intimate than the act itself. They’ll say something random, like how their mom used to burn toast every morning, or they’ll ask you about a scar you forgot you even had. They’ll let a sentence fall out that feels so tender, so unguarded, and you just know they didn’t mean to share it—but now it’s yours. And maybe you say something back, maybe you don’t. Maybe you’re just lying there wondering how you ended up in this moment with this person you thought you knew but didn’t, not really.

@sophiafone

Jan 28, 2025

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book covers

I’m totally obsessed with book covers, and this one is my current favorite

@sophiafone

Jan 14, 2025