I completely agree with this. The journey of finding oneself has become increasingly chaotic in todayâs world, where the constant pressure to fit into online trends and personas can distort our sense of identity. The urge to shape who we are based on what we see around us can easily lead us down a path where weâre not truly discovering ourselves, but rather adopting fragments of someone elseâs identity. In the quest to belong or understand who we are, we often open ourselves up to being shaped by external influences, which only creates illusions rather than authentic growth. Itâs a cycle of searching for self through others, but in doing so, we risk losing the very essence of who we could be.
Jan 14, 2025
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I've recently realized that, despite my consistent efforts to be authentic, I've still been structuring a lot of my goals and presentation based on what other people will think of me. It's all rooted in impressing others, because I worry that people won't like me if I don't impress them. It's not something I've been doing consciously, though. I think it is deeply ingrained with so many people my age because we grew up with social media. At 23, I'm only just beginning to understand how this may have really warped my brain. Additionally, I think a lot of family structures and the school system function this way. There is so much pressure to be "successful" in society. I have always supported the idea of other people expressing themselves without having to worry about being "cringe" or embarrassing, but I haven't been living it myself. I would love to strip back all the layers of expectations that have been painted onto me until I find who is really underneath again.
Dec 27, 2024
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been thinking a lot about self-awareness lately and what makes me âme.â Iâm always trying to figure out how to transform my inner critic to real personal growth without shame.
being honest and not editing myself to any given room was one of the first things I began to tackle in therapy. existing among other humans is an ongoing give and take, and Being Who You Are without apology while treating others with respect is really all you need to do in this life. learning how to be kind and true, and finding the good amongst so much bad and then sharing it with others makes the world go âround
Apr 16, 2024
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This constant pressure I feel to be on top of trends, to be a trendsetter, and overall just be different from the crowd is soooo exhausting. The idea that you can never do anything original because "everything has already been done" is such a pessimistic way to view yourself and to filter your creativity through. But that constant strive to create and be something or someone unique only makes you feel like shit. At the end of the day no one is going to do something like you do it, you live a completely unique life regardless of everything that's ever been done or made. Who cares if in the end it's all just a jumble of things you've collected in your time? That's what makes it you. You are already unique enough.
(rambling on this site is my godsend)
Jun 9, 2024
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Something cool I learnt recently is the theory of social thermoregulation. Itâs a concept that suggests warmth, whether physical or social, can influence our feelings of connection and emotional well-being. The theory, in essence, proposes that our brains are wired to perceive warmth as a form of social comfort. When we feel physically warmâlike when weâre holding a hot cup of teaâour brains associate that sensation with social closeness and feelings of security, even if weâre by ourselves.
Next time youâre feeling a bit lonely or disconnected, consider reaching for a cup of teaânot just for the taste or the comfort it offers, but for the warmth that could scientifically be helping your brain feel less isolated.
Jan 14, 2025
Jan 14, 2025
I think Iâm obsessed with the way people talk after sex. The rawness of it, the unraveling. Not sex itselfâno, sex is almost always⊠not what you think itâll be. Itâs not what movies promised or what your own mind built it up to be. Itâs hands and limbs and sometimes good, sometimes okay, sometimes youâre just waiting for it to end. But, the moments after.
Itâs messy, but not in the way sex is messy. Itâs messy in the way people are messy, when their guard drops and the words spill out in no particular order. The room smells like skin and warmth and whatever happened before, and somehow, this feels more intimate than the act itself.
Theyâll say something random, like how their mom used to burn toast every morning, or theyâll ask you about a scar you forgot you even had. Theyâll let a sentence fall out that feels so tender, so unguarded, and you just know they didnât mean to share itâbut now itâs yours. And maybe you say something back, maybe you donât. Maybe youâre just lying there wondering how you ended up in this moment with this person you thought you knew but didnât, not really.
Jan 28, 2025