Dating
Apps are killing true flirters every day. I have been challenging myself to get off the apps and flirt irl with strangers as often as is appropriate. Difficult because sometimes I forget how to be charming if I am nervous or anxious…but i am slowly killing my anxiety and attempting to live a fuller life and i am lowkey proud of that … as fuck
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as a born flirt i am in full support of your self awareness and journey. everyday spent living, laughing, loving is a good day 🙂↕️
Proud of you homie, every attempt taken is more experience. It’s a beautiful world we live in
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Like someone else said, one of the best, most freeing things is to leave the dating apps behind especially if you struggle with self esteem. I know people who have found amazing relationships from dating apps, but as a whole I believe they have done a great job at commoditizing romance and making interactions transactional; they want you to pay more money to keep swiping until your thumbs hurt. Combine that with the fact that all the major dating apps are owned by either Match Group or Bumble, data privacy concerns, and you now have an industry that treats dating like a mobile gacha game. Dating felt fun and natural for me the minute I left the apps behind. This is just my 2 cents, so take it with a grain of salt. Maybe they work for you, if so, more power to you!
Jan 21, 2025
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obviously everyone has said it already but it’s so freeing to just get rid of them. being a losergirl i wasn’t having much luck anyway so at first i thought nothing would change but i was wrong. i find that i don’t even think about romance or finding a partner much anymore; just focusing on fixing and bettering my life. focusing on strengthening my friendships, my goals and projects i’m working on satisfies me more then any romantic relationship will currently.
i have more thoughts but i’m bored of typing now
Sep 30, 2024
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I linked a rec I made over a year ago about deleting hinge and dating the old fashioned way. have I been on a single date since then? nope. do I stand by what I said? absolutely.
I’m still convinced that the apps aren’t perfect, and while they might work for some people they’re kind of a necessary evil at best. without them, it’s hard to put yourself in contexts where meeting someone organically is possible. and even then, within those contexts the meeting has to be just that: organic. it takes time. it takes being in places/situations regularly where you think you’ll meet people who share your interests/values. it also takes a bit of effort to initiate those interactions, and also fate that someone might initiate something with you.
the apps are a convenient, quick fix, instant gratification solution to the issue in that they will get you dates, but in exchange for quantity you may sacrifice on quality. things of quality have no fear of time, though. waiting to encounter someone who is a good fit and in a good phase of life to be what you need and vice versa is going to take time. and if you work a 9-5 like I do, you’re going to have to invest in putting yourself in situations to meet people in your free time. or just do what I do and develop crushes on your superiors in the workplace that are doomed to never be realized because of HR protocol. i’d advise against the latter, though.
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