Something that helps me a lot is reminding myself that we all tend to evaluate our own actions under a microscopic lens, observing problems that others would never pick up on because they’re not looking at us that closely. We tend to be much more critical of our own actions than those of others. And everyone does it! So reminding myself of this fact helps prevent me from spiraling.
ALSO: It can be very helpful to bring up a concern about something you did or said to a friend who was present at the time. 9/10 times they will tell you they hardly noticed it (if at all) and that it did not come off the way you feared. True friends will always accept you as you are and, as much as your anxiety brain would have you think otherwise, do not secretly hate you or think you’re lame!
Feb 4, 2025
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I feel like I’ve always associate being realistic with not fantasizing about stuff but I need the reminder it should apply to being hard on yourself too!! No matter how many mistakes I make (and there’s a lot of them), it’ll literally never warrant the vitriol I’m so comfortable doling out to myself!
Mar 10, 2025
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I feel like when things go wrong in our lives it’s easy to blame the world for our issues and very few times do we take the time to reflect on ourselves and check if we are the ones making mistakes. Having flaws is natural but one must take responsibility for their action. Do a little self check and improve yourself constantly! (Be careful not to blame yourself for everything though)
Jun 7, 2024
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Honesty hour: two things can exist at the same time, you could’ve rubbed this other person the wrong way, and you could be over thinking it. Strangers on the internet won’t be able to help you fully discern this since they weren't there(/genuine). And as cliche as it sounds, as much as you may be thinking about yourself and how you came off in this interaction, that‘s likely a shared experience(ie that person is only thinking about themselves). We‘re inherently very selfish people, regardless of our hypersensitivity/conscientiousness to social interactions. You’ll exhaust yourself worrying over how people actually feel about you(I say from experience). I doubt it impacted this person in the way it did you, so try to focus on how it affected you. You tried to be warm and safe, have comfort in that, regardless of how it came off.
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Oh, you wanted me to do this enormous task in an impossible amount of time? No u didn’t :) I’m actually not gonna do that, and good luck finding someone who will :-)
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