i was 26 and in a really rough spot in my life, very much rock bottom. So I prayed for some kind of sign or way out, and I started getting all these signs for Nashville. And Iām not a superstitious person, but the āsignsā were impossible to not notice. Like, I told a friend about it and she said āI was just about to call you and ask if you want to come to nashville for some meetings this week, I felt like I should bring you.ā Anyways thru that connection, i got a job at a nonprofit here.
But hereās the advice: my life SUCKED my first year here. My roommate was awful, I was anxious and I actually missed home. I didnāt know anybody in Nashville why had I done this?
But I stuck around and got thru it and now Iām at so much peace. So I guess, moving isnāt even the hard part sometimes. Itās staying. But I think one year can tell you if I the worth it to stay or find someplace else. But ya just gotta do it.
Feb 9, 2025
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annie-1 depends on the neighborhood. I lived my first year off a street with only non-English businesses called Nolensville pike. But thereās a big population of Kurdish refugees. Antioch is a suburb and itās very diverse.
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I was a post-grad slacker living with my Dad in suburban purgatory for the first third of my twenties. I was ready to let my life slide on byā ālifeā as such, in my estimation, being more of a mild affliction or some sort of spectacle to think big about or talk big about but not really do anything about. And then, suddenlyā my father & I got evicted. I got thrown into adulthood without really much warning at all. Stayed with my grandparents on a mattress in their living room; got a miserable job in the big city ā¢ļø & saved up for a few months. A friend was looking for a roommate to move into a house with her and some others. I took her up on it without hesitation.
I have no advice. If my father had been more fiscally responsible, It would be 2 years later & Iād still be gooning my life away in suburbia. No job, no prospects, my life just continuing and continuing and continuing and continuing and continuing and continuing. Looking down the barrel of 30 with my dick in my hand, soft & spent. I know a lot of guys like that. Theyāre real, it can happen to you. I was almost him.
I guess just know thereās no āidealā move. either do it or donāt. Youāll figure it out whether youāre ready or not.
God stepped in for me & forced me into adulthood. But He might be ignoring you for now, so if thatās the case just get a miserable job and save up first months rent & suffer until you realize that youāre pretty happy.
Feb 11, 2025
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i graduated with my counseling masters in May and received Texas licensure at the end of July š„³ iām excited and grateful to be starting this new chapter! but iām recovering from the burnout of a year of unpaid internship and feeling trepidatious about joining a group practice that could potentially take advantage of me or burn me out further. sadly a lot of group practices take a huge cut of counselor fees which makes me angry because donāt they remember the struggle of first starting out? plus a lot of the places iāve applied to arenāt hiring entry level therapists. so iām dragging my feet a bit and feeling pessimistic.
meanwhile iām struggling to pay the bills with my part-time grocery store job and spiraling from financial anxiety. summers are hard for me anyway but iām trying to swim and see my friends as much as i can for mental health purposes. also started playing Cozy Grove on Switch which has been a lovely soothing distraction. and bringing my kindle to work so i can read more on my breaks.
iām pre-grieving changes in my community too. my best friend of 16 years and her husband and toddler are moving to the other side of the world after being 5 mins from me the last few years. weāve been friends and living in the same cities the whole time. i moved around a lot as a kid so iāve never had such a long-term close proximity friendship. theyāre family and iāve only just begun grieving this change. my dear friend and roommate is also moving out in a few weeks because sheās contemplating moving cities/countries in the next year as well. my new roommate is a close friend who plans on staying in austin for the foreseeable future so it feels natural to build a home together and sheās big on hosting and community building too. so tons of relational shifts happening which take time to process.
all this on top of my personal existential crises of feeling distant from my faith, stuck in my religious trauma, and finally accepting my queerness earlier this year.
so i guess iām struggling in this transitional period but i know itās temporary and i do feel hopeful that my 30s are gonna be so so good once things finally start falling into place.
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What a big transition!!! How exciting! How nerve wracking! The unknown can be scary, but it also is full of POSSIBILITY!
How lucky are you to have a safe place you were able to stay for 20 years. That safety will never leave you- it lives in you. That sense of home is in your bones and no matter what, you can find that within. Creating a new home for yourself externally can take time, but you WILL figure it out! Think of all the people every day that are moving, have moved. Youāre a part of a ginormous community. Technology has granted you the ability to stay so connected, so use that to your benefit! We are all here for any advice or support you need as well. Youāre going to do great!
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