I skipped a million college lectures to listen to music on the grass, do laundry, have lunch in the sun, watch Saved by the Bell, run errands with a friend, whatever. I think I took Spanish 2B six times before I made it all the way to pass the final in my last term.
This doesnāt help you, but at least youāre not the only one! Think about changing your major or your sleep schedule or intoxication levels, and/or seeing a psychiatrist āļø
Feb 9, 2025
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I wasted a lot of time overfour years in college because I wasnāt there for any particular reason. So step one in preparing for college is to want to go to college.
Another thing is to know āyouāll find your peopleā isnt quite right. You can find your people but you have to look for them! Try lots of things and meet lots of people.
Balancing your people and your studies comes down to discipline. I donāt think thereāsa universal answer to that. If youāre in a nerdy major at a nerdy school, itāll be easier than if youāre taking sociology at Arizona State or whatever a big party school is nowadays.
I think failing is a valuable part of college. Whether thatās literally getting an F or just not getting the grade you want or the person you want, etc. Just like itās a great place to meet people, itās a pretty safe place to make mistakes as you figure things out. Especially because youāre surrounded by other people doing the sane thing! No one knows how theyāll do at college, you just figure it out.
I recommend watching the Psychology ofWell Being before you go. Itās free on Coursera and is a popular course from Yale that teaches important things about what does and doesnāt make us happy, and how our minds trick us into emphasizing the wrong things. Itās really good!
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I remember a guy in the dorm room next to mine freshman year who would get stoned all the time. He had the stoner eyes and the slow gravelly voice and generally seemed totally out of it. Two years later we had a class together and he was like a different person! Come to think of it I saw the same with another dorm-mate.
You made mistakes, but you made them at the right time! Maybe youāll retake some classes, maybe next summer you take a course to make up what you missed.
You have lots of opportunities to get on track.
And you donāt have to do it alone. A nice thing about college is you know other people are going through the sa mme things as you. You certainly arenāt the only person on campus with a drinking problem!
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i had a similar mindset to you coming into college where i wanted to achieve a lot. it's important to have that ambition earlier on, as it can propel you to improve yourself.
at the same time, don't get disheartened if things don't work out the first time around. i had a lot of issues in my first two years chasing after this idea of "lifelong college friends", and it's only after i stopped chasing and focused on myself that i was able to build some stronger friendships. engage with your hobbies and the things you like to do - people with similar interests can be found there.
be flexible and open - have a list of priorities for the day, and engage in "productive procrastinating" where you procrastinate on something by doing an unrelated productive thing (like taking a break from an essay and cleaning up my room). i split my time between career prep, clubs, and other engagements using this tactic.
it's a time of a lot of change, but you got this. good luck :)
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