It seems like itās become such a cultural norm at this point, especially amongst my generation, to tout the benefits of therapy. āThey need to go to therapyā
āIām going to therapyā
āGo to therapyā
While Iām a strong proponent of destigmatizing mental illness and getting the help we need, thereās been questions on this topic Iāve been mulling over the past couple weeks:
How do therapists know when a client is just telling their skewed side of the story? What if they have a client who is manipulative and always paints themselves as the victim? How does a therapist see through that? And if they donāt, then wouldnāt that be enabling unhealthy behavioral patterns?
Iām reminded of a story from my childhood, when my brother went to therapy and my mom had to be there with him for some reason, and she would end up dominating the conversation with the therapist and painting herself as the victim and he would leave the session defeated. Every time he would recount these stories to me, I would think to myself, why did the therapist not facilitate this better?
I guess we all talk about going to therapy, but no one talks about what makes a good therapist, about how to find a competent therapist that fits your needs, and about being radically honest with yourself about the kind of help you really need.
Anyway - if anyone reading this is a therapist or mental health professional who can answer my questions above, I would greatly appreciate itš