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This is actually so easy and yet.
You're capable of meeting all of your own needs and when you accept this (and expect this people are just automatically drawn in.
If there's a movie you wanna go see, make the plan to go see it by yourself, and next time you're in a group of people (at work at a bar whateva) share with the group that you're going to see the movie on this date at this time and anyone is free to come.
You'll be surprised at how many people will join on things. And any time anyone doesn't, it's nothing to you bc you were gonna go by yourself anyway.
People are just really scared to invite people to things and even more scared to invite themselves. So just be the person to invite. If they come that's gorgeous if they don't that's also gorgeous you get to see the film either way (or go to the concert or museum or whatev)
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So many people are so scared to do things on their own, but it can be so fun and liberating! I’m my own favorite travel partner. You can try fun places without worrying about what someone else is in the mood for, meet so many people, people watch, read, visit museums Or other stops and take all the time you want, etc. I think a lot of people care too much about what others think when they’re seen doing something or dining alone, but in the grand scheme of things it doesn’t matter. Starting out, go to a restaurant that has a bar and sit at the bar, you can enjoy your food and maybe a drink, if you get anxious about people talking to you or aren’t having fun people watching, take up watching the sports on the tv to look occupied! Or maybe your solo outing could first be taking yourself on a museum date and getting to spend as much time as you want in each exhibit.
Jan 18, 2025
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concert? play? Reading? niche movie screening? Rave? Restaurant you want to try? whatever it is, try to wrangle friends if its up their alley (not a pro-antisocial message here) but if it does not work out, take urself! literally worst case scenario absolutely no one gives a fuck best case you make new circumstantial friends. Every one is busy making money and chasing what inspires them to stay here so schedules align once in a blue moon, don’t let that stop you from discovering / enjoying shit.
Feb 21, 2024
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ive met some wonderful people by just showing up to an event of some kind by myself and simply approaching people. a lot of the time you dont even need to approach someone because something happens nearby that you both can bond over. i. e. i met a very kind couple at a concert bc some guy next to me was being weird and rowdy, and they stepped in to shield me! how nice! and we still keep up with eachother.
obviously, you have to keep your wits about you and make sure someone you do know knows where you are, but really what im getting at is this:
simply by being around people, you will meet people. just have fun with it and be bold, and when you DO meet people, you have to keep up the effort in following up a couple times to keep the conversation flowing. 🦋
Feb 2, 2025
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Any man, any task. I’m sure there are other ways to strengthen your relationships with men but this is the easiest I’ve found and my method also gets a task done.
Ask your dad to build shelves, ask some guy on your street to mow your lawn, ask your friend to collect a parcel for you, ask your brother to hang a picture frame. So many tasks get done and so many men feel needed and appreciated. Could offer them a beer to make it transactional but it’s almost never necessary.
Mar 5, 2025
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it's soooo sexy to just get over things. what ever baby we all die come to the party tonight the love is still here! everyone should kiss and make up imo
Feb 15, 2025
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They're delicious and silent and
unscented. They sell so many foods at the cinema but never berries.
Feb 23, 2025