It’s definitely a good way to meet people and get your feet wet if you haven’t dated much in the past. But, if you’re looking for something serious, it might not be the best route. At least in my experience, the consumerist nature of dating apps makes it easy for people to toss one another aside in the hopes that they’ll find something better. Not saying that people irl are necessarily better, but the apps can be demoralizing for sure.
Feb 26, 2025
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Yeah it’s so tough on there. I think it doesn’t help that each time I do decide to get apps it’s always the same characters on there every time :/ thank u buddy
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Reading through these answers is brutal but here’s my interpretation of dating apps:
the longest seriously relationship I have ever been and still am in is from a dating app. they are not engineered to be built for short term use because they lose their value fast if people end up in successful relationships as a result. They’re not designed as a means to an end. they are a time and sometimes money suck and can hollow out the social interactions
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They are the most easily accessible option and if you choose to explore that path, being as intentional as possible when curating your profile is important. Sounds sleazy but these apps encourage people to develop a personal brand or become product like, you have to “sell” yourself to demonstrate that you are a good fit for partnership. There’s probably good people out there who are well intentioned who want to find someone
I would advise (if you do it) to be specific about what you are looking for, what you like to do for fun, hobbies, and the right people will come if you have shared values. Or just have a profile with a profile pic and no bio and talk your way into things like I did
avoid: laundry lists of what turns you on/off, anything that feels inauthentic, such things
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Like someone else said, one of the best, most freeing things is to leave the dating apps behind especially if you struggle with self esteem. I know people who have found amazing relationships from dating apps, but as a whole I believe they have done a great job at commoditizing romance and making interactions transactional; they want you to pay more money to keep swiping until your thumbs hurt. Combine that with the fact that all the major dating apps are owned by either Match Group or Bumble, data privacy concerns, and you now have an industry that treats dating like a mobile gacha game. Dating felt fun and natural for me the minute I left the apps behind. This is just my 2 cents, so take it with a grain of salt. Maybe they work for you, if so, more power to you!
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Wouldn’t say I’m desperate, but I’m actively interested in a relationship, trying to move on from a past too complicated and dark to describe on here, but I feel that having that bond with someone and making endlessly fun memories would be a huge benefit, as well as sharing a part of yourself with someone who’s really special and deserving of it.
I know I’m not that bad-looking of a guy, but I haven’t really had much luck on the apps, tried to curtail my profile to be more appearing, whole nine yards. It’s getting to be a bummer.
Should I ditch the app and just let fate take its course?
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