Rec | TIME AND HEALTHY DISTANCE

😃

Rec'd on 💔 How to deal with the pain of breaking up with someone you love?

There’s no rushing the healing process, but it may be tempting to maintain some kind of relationship because you care about this person. That can be hard and prolong the healing process, but try and move on and focus on what you think you do want 🫡 you got this

@ted-woollen56

Mar 24, 2025

see likes

Comments (0)

Make an account to reply.

No comments yet

Related Recs

🌼

HEALING YOURSELF

By putting hopes + healing into someone else's hands, you also give them all that power over you. When they stop x, y, z, your maintenance is dropped. Your wound is never healed without them. (Re: "lost the person who I thought would heal me from all previous wounds.") Best news is that you haven't lost that person. It's all u bb A lil self journey to gentle self care could go a long way, with maybe professionals if needed. Next relationship will be healing bc you'll have all that inner stability. Hope this helps 🩷🪻🩵

@1strawberrysecret

Apr 12, 2025

1️

taking a break from dating

Feels reallllllllly tempting following a romantic fallout to "get back out there" for several reasons: to prove (to yourself?) that you are desirable, to fill a void left by ex partner, to see if things feel different with other people, to try to comfort yourself with the knowledge that not everyone is as shitty as the last person u dated. (sidenote: spend time with the question of what it fulfills for you) This is rarely ever the right move. At least in my experience. I've literally caused myself psychic damage by jumping back in too fast lol. As cliche as it is, the best advice I have is to spend time (LIKE, TIMEEEEE. months) "dating yourself." You will gain confidence, learn more about yourself + have space from the event that leaves you feeling like dating is so difficult right now. Time really does heal all wounds...but jumping right back into dating is like picking a scab. Fill up your cup in other ways in the meantime. Eventually, it will feel more natural/comfortable for you to ease back into dating - instead of trying to cram yourself into it and thinking that there's something wrong with you/you've sustained permanent damage because it's difficult. Your wounds won't be as fresh and you'll have a clearer picture of what you can/can't tolerate in a romantic relationship. It's hard! But u can do it! <3

@sunnyd123

Apr 1, 2024

🫂

Baby steps and boundaries

first and foremost, you definitely shouldn’t stop talking about it, if that’s what you want to do. if something is on your mind and you want to express it, i feel like the harmful thing to do would be to bottle it up! just keep talking about it as much as you feel you need to and i can guarantee you that, over time, it’ll plague you less and less. eventually it’ll just become another aspect of your life you‘ve successfully grown and learned from! my advice re: getting back out there is to simply take it slow. be observant for any red flags that you think could be indicative of a larger issue. also, make your core values clear from day 1! if someone really wants to be in your life, they’ll make it clear that they hold similar values :) also, be sure to set your boundaries. be honest about your past and let them know that you’re still healing from it. any genuinely empathetic human being will internalize what you shared with them and be understanding! overall, i’d urge you to remember that most people are not like your ex; most people want to cultivate healthy and loving relationships! i can’t imagine what you’ve had to endure - but thankfully you get to go out there and meet the person who deserves your love !! it’s super exciting !! woo!!!! best of luck ☺️