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(loose) structured, Scheduled activities

the work-eat-scroll-sleep-repeat pattern had me in a chokehold for ~3 years after I graduated from college, realized that a large part of the reason I struggled to break the cycle was because I’d want to “rest” after work but eventually do something enriching in the evenings, but didn’t actually have an idea of what I wanted to do so the lift to get off [app] was less willpower and more decision paralysis; the friction of figuring out what to do was what was keeping me in the cycle ~90% of the time. what has worked for me: 1. going outside immediately after work (especially if working from home) to run an errand or go to a book or record or coffee shop 2. keeping a list of projects i want to / am currently working on or skills i want to develop and making progress on those 3. reading a book 4. (most effective) taking a class (writing, pottery, filmmaking for me) and either going to the sessions or doing the assignments but also sometimes you literally just wanna rot and that’s cool too! ———————————————— i tried a couple different ways to structure my time: 1. daily timeblocking (3*/10): setting 5-6 to wind down; 6-7 for dinner; 7-9 for enrichment; etc… didn’t work at all for me. too structured. 2. theming days: (5*/10): mondays are for reading; tuesdays writing; etc… worked slightly better but sometimes you wanna do a different thing than the theme, introduces decision paralysis of whether to power through to build routine or to follow your instincts and have max fun 3. big list: (7*/10): here are all my projects (and subtasks) or hobbies or chores or errands i want to do; i give them a number score of how urgently i want to do them, then do the one i want to do most thats higher priority. bonus points if at the start of the week or month, you put some activities on a calendar for specific days even randomly to just have a schedule when you don’t have something you’re particularly called to do so that’s your default activity and not scrolling. works the best*! (*for me)

@alaiyo

Jan 16, 2025

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Making a schedule

I really struggled with all the unstructured time post-grad and my body totally flipped like what do you MEAN I have nothing to do and if I do nothing, nothing will happen? This rec is annoying, but as a skilled layabout, it really helped me overcome the whole “what do I do all day” thing and also the “why am I falling asleep at 3 AM and waking up at noon?” thing to make a loose schedule and try to adhere. If you’re applying for jobs, school, or even just pondering what to do next, think about:  At what time during the day do I feel most awake and alive? Then, block out like four hours around that window. I try to do 90 minutes of focused work at a time with like 60 minutes between for chilling. So, if you can start with two little blocks of working on applications or doing some intentional, focused pondering, great. Gradually, you can increase the amount of work if you want.  Then, plan the rest of your day around things you need and want to do - move your bod, eat, socialize. Things like talking a short walk in the morning to get some sunlight, going to the movies, and calling friends, lighten me up!  Keep it simple babe!  Post-grad, I laid on a couch for three months in stay at home girlfriend mode totally consumed by fear. I asked a lot of older people how they figured things out and they told me that nobody ever does. I like to do some meditations on intention and listening to yourself (linked). And I agree with capyboppy...try to stay present and pay attention to what you got going on right now! The weight of future is heavy becuase you probably want your life to be sick and meaningful….and that’s cool.

@zezealot

Jun 11, 2024

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Investing time wisely

i realize i haven't been spending my time exactly how i want. soooo without dwelling too much or beating myself up (why. pay. twice.) i'm making some changes. bye instagram on the phone, hello duolingo, bye unfulfilling social engagements, hello nurturing new and old relationships that feel truly good, hello reading, hello feeling better already! hello again pi.fyi community with your good taste and kind hearts!

@rocky

Mar 13, 2024

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listening to cds

finally using my portable CD player again to listen to my favorite album that isn't on any streaming services anymore!! it's so fun to have physical copies of media I like, and it was great to not use my phone for once (though the CD would pause every time I accidentally bumped into the player while I was walking to class; it was kind of charming but also pretty annoying).

@bjerre

3d ago

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deleting social media off of my phone

After watching the new Eddy Burback video I have been inspired to delete every evil application from my phone so I can actually live my life. I have had Instagram for almost nine years now, so it felt very powerful to delete it <3

@bjerre

Apr 1, 2025

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post breakup clarity

I feel like I'm me again!! It sucks to realize a bit late how much I was being disrespected but there's no time like the present :) Been listening to my favorite emo music and spending more time with my friends again. We are so back

@bjerre

Mar 23, 2025

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