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Apartment Swapping

If you live in an expensive, desirable place like New York City or Key Largo, try swapping apartments with a young freelancer in a Tier 4 city who probably lives in a massive loft. For free. Put your performative Airbnb guilt to good use—take a midcation!

@steven-phillips-horst

Apr 19, 2023

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trusting yourself

my partner and i were presented with the opportunity to move into a friend’s slightly larger and more amenitied apartment up the block, but we’d have to break our lease to do so lol listed our apartment on facebook marketplace to see if anyone was interested in signing the lease so we could move, essentially just putting out feelers and seeing what happened. did not expect to receive dozens upon dozens of messages! i scheduled tours and showed like six people around, all of whom were like where can i sign! and i called our landlord twice. met with the landlord of the new place and got the paperwork….. truly in the final steps…. only to get home and realize, you know what,,, we’re staying here! and it was literally such a relief to say it. did it take hundreds of messages from people begging for me to leave my apartment to truly viscerally process that i’ve got a good thing? perhaps! but i think it was more that i had been in a scarcity mindset of like, “when we move and i have more space i’ll be able to… make the art i want; really feel at home; feel more comfortable; etc.” and when i really dug into those feelings about it, i simply knew that my home right now presents a growth opportunity to work creatively with the space i have. didn’t want to admit to myself that i was in that space of forcing things because i initially just wanted to move so badly, i was literally bypassing my felt experience and like, true reactions. i also felt like it fell into our laps and was this once-in-a-lifetime thing. but really trying to now reinforce that a two bedroom w a dishwasher, balcony, and some bedrooms that look out onto the neighbors’ walls is not inimitable. and i want to approach this process from a space where im resourced and generally tranquil. so i’m happy and i’m not moving and im going to buy myself an $8 latte this morning to celebrate!!!!

@ryn

Apr 25, 2024

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small room, mostly empty

I work three jobs and am getting my BA part time. I have hobbies, friends, and an active social appetite. I’m also subject to the 24 hour day. Sometimes that doesn’t really feel doable. in the middle of winter, you can get an Airbnb in Burlington Vermont for $30 a night. it’s a small room, a bed, a window. Shared kitchen, both spare and kitschy (a notable achievement I feel). though I can’t afford to leave all that often, this is how I do it. I go for 5ish days, I sleep a lot, I eat well enough, I read and write a lot because I feel like I can really unload. it is so quiet, and if you wanted to go somewhere at night you could, but you’ll find you rarely want to. When I got off the train in Burlington it was snowing and the snow stuck to everything, even the asphalt and I just started laughing maniacally in an empty parking lot.

@whatcanibring

Jun 18, 2024

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Kids

Having an online audience of any kind or a patreon is a huge responsibility, but I highly recommend making your way towards the goal of eventually having or making children. I’m a dada to a 2.5 year old little boy, named Dashiell (Dash) - with our little girl Meadow set to arrive in August. This is by far the hardest group project I’ve ever been a part of - I won’t mention the endless list of things we all see when millennials talk about how tired they are, or how their boobs hurt (mine don’t, but if you have boobs they will hurt bad) - but when he takes my hand and pulls me in the direction he wants to go, or makes fun of something stupid I did in front of him (he has a way of saying “ohhh, daaaaddaaa” which just levels me ) - I swear I’ve never felt a bigger or more true love in my entire life. Everything fades, everything dies, except the love of a child. Unless you really fuck with them, be good to your kids and love them a lot. I swear there’s nothing better than this, absolutely nothing. There’s nothing better than love, I swear.

@matthew-daniel-siskin

Mar 17, 2022

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NoPost

The NoPost (i.e NoFap) is the simple exercise of not posting anything online on purpose. I find when I ignore the impulse to post, more than 5 or 6 times in a row, a great clarity hits me. Ideas feel new and beautiful again, my desires sink back into healthier corners, I’m focused. It’s great! I highly recommend trying this for a week, and see what happens. One of the rules though, is you can’t post that you’re doing it, as that breaks the NoPost core value. NoFap is good too but much more difficult to pull off.

@matthew-daniel-siskin

Mar 17, 2022

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Sarah Kane - Complete Plays

One of my favorite playwrights of all time (just behind my dear friend Polly Stenham, who first introduced me to her work)  - her book of complete plays (Blasted, Phaedra’s Love, Cleansed, Crave, 4.48 Psychosis, and Skin) is everything I love about music, films, really anything. There’s something about reading plays that allows my brain to process and experience the work differently - it’s a crazy thrill to read her,, especially Blasted. It’s intense to the bone stuff. She also made a short film for Skin in 1997 just before hanging herself in 1999.

@matthew-daniel-siskin

Mar 17, 2022