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my partner and i were presented with the opportunity to move into a friendās slightly larger and more amenitied apartment up the block, but weād have to break our lease to do so lol
listed our apartment on facebook marketplace to see if anyone was interested in signing the lease so we could move, essentially just putting out feelers and seeing what happened. did not expect to receive dozens upon dozens of messages! i scheduled tours and showed like six people around, all of whom were like where can i sign! and i called our landlord twice.
met with the landlord of the new place and got the paperworkā¦.. truly in the final stepsā¦. only to get home and realize, you know what,,, weāre staying here! and it was literally such a relief to say it.
did it take hundreds of messages from people begging for me to leave my apartment to truly viscerally process that iāve got a good thing? perhaps!
but i think it was more that i had been in a scarcity mindset of like, āwhen we move and i have more space iāll be able toā¦ make the art i want; really feel at home; feel more comfortable; etc.ā and when i really dug into those feelings about it, i simply knew that my home right now presents a growth opportunity to work creatively with the space i have.
didnāt want to admit to myself that i was in that space of forcing things because i initially just wanted to move so badly, i was literally bypassing my felt experience and like, true reactions.
i also felt like it fell into our laps and was this once-in-a-lifetime thing. but really trying to now reinforce that a two bedroom w a dishwasher, balcony, and some bedrooms that look out onto the neighborsā walls is not inimitable. and i want to approach this process from a space where im resourced and generally tranquil.
so iām happy and iām not moving and im going to buy myself an $8 latte this morning to celebrate!!!!
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This weekend i left town at 4 am to roadtrip to (redacted big city) with my mom then just did a deep dive of towns in the metropolitan area. Having her with me was incredible. She knew to approach friendly strangers at gas stations and barber shops about how good of areas are these.
Then after gaining so much intel and hunting down so many rental signs. We grabbed dinner with some friends i have out in this area, 2 more people i also lean on quite a bit. To my surprise we didnāt talk extensively about the hunt for places to the degree i assumed we would. Afterwards i went to a party with my friends and chatted with a friend of my friends about me working on making the leap.
I still have ways to go but have started to hear about people i know through a person who knows a person who knows a person who have job openings whom live over there and other rental properties that have popped up.
Basically alot of jotting info down, being proactive, and talking with people about it. Has been the move in making progress. And crossing my fingers i land what i want.
Feb 10, 2025
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and calling friend's apartments, "their house". feels cozy, and like i am speaking it into existence
Feb 7, 2024
I live in a beige $2000 a month 750-square-foot luxury pod not even in a major city like an insane person. I have a TV in my mirror (not kidding) and I donāt even have a bathtub all I have is this shower that makes me feel like I live in a Scandinavian white collar prison. I viewed two rental properties today in older tree-lined neighborhoods and could feel the soul regenerating in my body so I am really hoping I can ESCAPE MY POD
(there are usually products in this shower this was after a cleaning sessionā¦)
Apr 18, 2024
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chicago hang success !! it was so lovely to meet everyone today <3 more plans incoming soon š„mossyelfiejoe_m_millerbashfulchicken
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for my 100th rec i am proposing a chicago meetup sometime this summer, inspired by other city rendezvous(es?) ~~~ would love to meet some of u lovely people in person! comment if youāre interested we can brainstorm places 2 go š«
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if you are in the metro chicago area pls join us at central park bar in avondale next saturday, august 17 at 4pm. mossyelfiethickrimmedgirlronen and i will be there for sure ! here is the discord for chat ! pls come join us !!
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