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someone once said that the only way to be happy in New York City is to learn how to be happy for your friends. treat their successes as your successes. this advice has been indispensable for me.
Jan 23, 2024

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It was a big risk, but I was just laid off from a job I hated and had a fresh breakup on top of that. I had decent prospects as far as potential jobs go, but I wanted to stay in ā€œthe cityā€ and I felt like I hit a ceiling in San Francisco. Plus, Iā€™d lived there nearly my entire life. Thus, I had a suspicion that if I couldnā€™t be happy in New York City, then I wouldn't be happy anywhere. That was a little over six years ago now and Iā€™m the happiest Iā€™ve ever been. A LOT has happened here, and Iā€™ve dealt with a ton of grief, but man, I love it here. I have a great job, made some real friends and community, and am living outwardly as my truest self. Iā€™m sure I couldā€™ve had this in SF if I tried, and I know that this lifestyle will change inevitably, but I love living in a place with an energy that emanates throughout the city.
Mar 6, 2024
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šŸ  decent living situation ā€” awful roommates, deadbeat landlords, or psycho neighbors will make you super miserable so try to get this one locked down! šŸ«‚ homies ā€” making new friends can take a long time, but if you commit to putting yourself out there over and over youā€™ll connect with some truly inspiring and amazing people šŸ¤‘ income (even a little) ā€” yes you can get by on dumplings, no Ubers, no bars, etc. but being broke here feels particularly like a prison because most things are stupid expensive. Be on your grind and then blissfully spend it all away If you end up getting all 3 of these youā€™re probably gonna be hopelessly addicted to being here just like me. Welcome to NYC :)
Feb 21, 2024
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hereā€™s my misc thoughts lol iā€™m no expert but this is from my POV as someone whoā€™s lived here full time a bit and grew up visiting all the time. firstly, youā€™re def right that it is expensive ā€” nearly impossible to relocate to if you donā€™t have a job secured and arenā€™t rich. even moreso if you have never visited or have only done one super tourist-y visit--itā€™s not just Times Square and Statue of Liberty (love her tho) rainbows and butterflies vibes lol. like i seriously do not recommend moving here if you havenā€™t been to other boroughs, and neighborhoods outside of Midtown, SoHo, FiDi, UES etc. iā€™ve never been to england so canā€™t speak to it bit you might find it helpful to look online for comparisons to cities youā€™ve spent more time in - london and other cities in europe perhaps. consider if NYC would be that much more exciting or ā€œbetterā€ for you? also thereā€™s a huge issue of influencers and people who wanna live here impulsively for fun that has driven up rent and driven out lifetime residents, esp working class folks and people of color. (lots of writing out there on the difference between moving to any city vs gentrifying one, and what one can do to not be complicit in the latter). and, my family is from here and i have always loved the city; i did get a job here after graduation but i really wouldnā€™t have moved here if i hadnā€™t. so definitely come here intentionally, and arrive with a willingness to engage with your community! sometimes new residents who arenā€™t as acquainted with the ā€œrealā€ new york and canā€™t afford apts in the more gentrified or historically wealthy areas (most of manhattan, some parts of brooklyn) have a misconception of the city, so they end up feeling awkward or ā€œunsafeā€ where they live, and thus donā€™t give back to their neighborhood. itā€™s veryyy weird that some people move here only to go to work, eat out and party on the weekends. (not saying this is you ofc! but just a general note). the irony is that NYers get a bad rep for the mind your own business culture and realness--and yeah NYers arenā€™t ā€œniceā€, but people are kind. folks care about and actively help out their neighbors. i saw this in my own fam growing up! and as sinatra himself once said: ā€œif i can make it here, iā€™ll make it anywhere.ā€ it is a tough place to ā€œmake itā€ for people without roots. but iā€™d never deny that new york, for many of us, lives up to its reputation as the so-called greatest city in the world ;)
Aug 30, 2024

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