It was a big risk, but I was just laid off from a job I hated and had a fresh breakup on top of that. I had decent prospects as far as potential jobs go, but I wanted to stay in āthe cityā and I felt like I hit a ceiling in San Francisco. Plus, Iād lived there nearly my entire life. Thus, I had a suspicion that if I couldnāt be happy in New York City, then I wouldn't be happy anywhere.
That was a little over six years ago now and Iām the happiest Iāve ever been. A LOT has happened here, and Iāve dealt with a ton of grief, but man, I love it here. I have a great job, made some real friends and community, and am living outwardly as my truest self.
Iām sure I couldāve had this in SF if I tried, and I know that this lifestyle will change inevitably, but I love living in a place with an energy that emanates throughout the city.
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leaving somewhere youāve know your whole life is so fucking hard but (usually) necessary to grow.. So happy it worked out so well for u ty for sharing ā„ love hearing the stories of people being BRAVE
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Moved here whilst going through a breakup and Iād just gotten laid off. It was really difficult the first couple years, but I put my head down, worked hard, made a lot of inevitably important connections and managed to move past the āsurvivingā status.
I donāt regret it. Iām the happiest Iāve ever been in my adult life, and thatās after going through A Lot of trauma during peak COVID years.
Mar 23, 2024
I lived in Massachusetts for 28 years until 1 year ago today when I moved to NYC. I was feeling stagnant and afraid that Iād be there forever if I didnāt make a change. I am happy to say it was one of the best decisions Iāve made. I donāt know if Iāll be here forever but Iāve learned more about myself in 1 year than the last 5 and thatās something Iāll always be thankful for. Iāve made new friends, reconnected with old, gotten a new job, moved apartments, and had an enumerable unforgettable memories.
If you are feeling stuck where you have always been, I recommend making a change because it will be both one of the more challenging and rewarding decisions you make.
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Iām from the midwest, moved to manhattan for college, stayed for a bit after, have recently moved to a few different cities, and have wished to be back living in new york ever since. Itās often talked about like a thrilling dreamā itās obviously not. But what I can say is that I think in many ways living there helped me grow into a person I really understand. I was listening to a podcast recently where this comedian brittany carney said something like living in new york slaps her in the face every day but she likes that about it so she stays. I think that was a pretty accurate way to describe it. It took me a while to feel comfortable living there, but I still remember the moment I realized that it had become my home, and ever since no home Iāve made for myself has felt quite the same.
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