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I've started driving across town every Monday to go to an oldtime country music night. Along with it's audience and stage spanning all ages, I'm rarely at events with any crossover from it socially. It feels great to be informed and included in a community so separate from your normal day-to-day
Jan 24, 2024
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A lot of people will usually recommend signing up for courses or joining clubs to make new friends as an adult. This is definitely good advice, since it puts you in contact with people who share your interests! However, I've found that a lot of these courses or clubs cost money, or they require a schedule that's difficult to fit into an adult life. I've had the most luck making friends at local music shows so far. This way, you're around people that still share at least one of your interests (music taste), and you'll usually have more in common from there. After leaving the "bubble" of my university, I felt very isolated at first. After a few months of going to shows on my own here and there, I started to recognize some familiar faces in the scene & made new connections with a few people. I'd recommend picking a couple bands to keep up with, or following a few local booking companies on social media. If you don't vibe with the crowd at the ones you chose, you can always switch lanes and try different venues! Different groups/venues usually attract different age ranges as well, so if you notice people are too far out of your range at your show, just keep trying other options. I've realized that there's actually multiple scenes inside my local scene, which may be the case for a lot of midsize-to-bigger cities/areas. If you find venues, bands, or booking groups that support certain causes you care about, then most people in the crowd will also share your values, not just your interests! Typically the shows are very cheap, and they're irregular instead of attending a recurring class, so you can decide when you feel like socializing. Even if you don't meet people you connect with, it's nice to feel like a part of a bigger community & get out of the house sometimes. Going out frequently can be draining to some people, so once you meet some people from the shows, you can start inviting them to other activities or hangouts that might be more lowkey & easier to manage!
Aug 20, 2024
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i started going to diy hardcore and punk shows every weekend because I wasn't leaving the house and was so so so lonely. everyone is super friendly, though i find myself feeling alone at times. but, it's nice to be surrounded by people. being thrown around the mosh pit and flung into wild dances makes me feel like I'm apart of the inner working of some great beast. i see many of the same people every week, and we usually chat together and sometimes smoke reefer or get in the pit at the same time. it's quite comforting, as somepne who has many acquaintances yet little friends. music is something that anyone can get involved in, lots of people you wouldn't expect to be in a room together just dancing the night away.
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Nightlife is an entire subculture that i feel disconnected from at times. i always have fun when i go out. meeting so many interesting ppl i never would’ve met otherwise. i should do it more and so should u 🫵🏽
Nov 1, 2024
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Biblical….
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Remember him? The 2010s rocked, it's ok that he does classical and stuff now.
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