this applies to a lot of things. particularly code reviews. also, i think it's so so so important to be able to say "i don't like how that sounds" during a band practice.
write out everything you want to say, put it down, come back to it, figure out if it's the right tone, captures your intention, and maintains everyone's integrity. always helpful to run it by another person who you trust to see how it lands.
sometimes you just gotta get it out and be like "yo are we still vibing or nah" you know??? all the homies love a "clear is kind" moment-- being clear is the kindest thing you can do and sometimes that's really hard <3
