write out everything you want to say, put it down, come back to it, figure out if it's the right tone, captures your intention, and maintains everyone's integrity. always helpful to run it by another person who you trust to see how it lands.
Depending on the conversation, it could also be an uncomfortable one all parties involved but the only through it is through! Keep in mind why you want to have the conversation in the first place and the importance behind it. Everyone is different, I like to go in and get straight into it but it also helps writing out points or maybe practicing what youβre going to say. Keep your head as leveled and fair as it can be. If needed, take a walk and grab some fresh air afterwards before analyzing how the conversation went. Wishing you the best of luck & itβs all going to be okay! (-:
The write down a letter to him/her thats not meant to be sent, analyze it, see your own perspective, work see what could have been better on your part. And then work on yourself.
this applies to a lot of things. particularly code reviews. also, i think it's so so so important to be able to say "i don't like how that sounds" during a band practice.
