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do it for the bit!
worst case scenario? they don‘t like you (thats ok!). maybe you didnt gain anything but you certainly havent lost anything either... actually id still argue that you *have* gained something by allowing yourself the self compassion to be imperfect (heh heh).
best case scenario? you‘re with good company and as time goes on with said good company, you realize what you perceive to be flaws are really not flaws at all, but a part of the wonderful weave of traits and quirks that makes up you (and everyone else too!) just maybe with a little less confidence.
rest assured, the confidence can be worked on. but attracting the life you want with people who inspire you and fill your heart with the warmth of 1000 suns starts with you being your most beautiful & authentic self! warts and all!
weirdos n freaks rise up!
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it's actually better to be weird! confuse people, be ugly, passionate, be YOU. i spent so much time trying to be perfect and liked by everyone and that way i just got a lot of shallow connections because i refused to let people see the real me and get to really know me. it's silly to chase perfection as it donesn't exist and being weird is better than being boring :p
Dec 30, 2024
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Look, first and foremost, it’s normal to want to look cool. We all want to fit in, be accepted, be validated and feel like we belong, it’s a natural human thing.
But the only way out is through. You have to accept and love yourself. You have to embrace your cringe, and your wonders, and your quirks. You have to learn to be proud of them. You have to validate yourself and understand that by choosing to be you, you will lose some things. Maybe some friends, maybe some validation. But you will get so much more. There’s nothing cooler than someone who is unafraid of being who they are. That’s the key, I guess. And it’s freaking hard, so it’s a process. Just start with the basics. Dress how you want to dress, look how you want to look, and experiment with it, see how you feel, face the rejection with open arms. Be cringe, but be authentic.
Nov 18, 2024
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Some people are just better at handling it than others. Remember that it’s likely nobody is thinking about you as much as you’re thinking about yourself! If people are judging you, this is something you can either learn and grow from if you do something legitimately wrong, or they’re just being rude and critical for no reason and that’s a reflection on them. Give others grace, patience, and the benefit of the doubt and hopefully they’ll do the same for you.
Not everybody will like you and that’s okay! And as much as we would like to think we can and as much effort as some may put into it, we can never truly control the way others perceive us. Find ways to develop self esteem and confidence that comes from within based off of traits you admire and respect about yourself regardless of what other people think.
I would recommend that you undergo DIY exposure therapy by throwing yourself into lots of social scenarios big and small that make you blush and shake and feel like you want to crawl out of your skin. Go into public places and force yourself to make pleasant small talk with strangers + share something small about yourself with them! Ask people about themselves! Go to a party or an event and make it a goal to talk to X number of people.
But also remember that you don’t have to share your whole personality with everyone you meet and depending on the context and circumstances it may not even be appropriate to do so. So maybe start with identifying aspects of your personality you want to show most consistently with everyone you meet and go from there!
May 16, 2024
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dil se
food: 10/10
service: 10/10
vegan options: 10/10
try:
• lamb bhuna
• paneer chilli dry
• bhindi masala
• masala chai
Feb 11, 2024
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- damp decaying earth
- cherry soap!
- moms cooking
- the top of my cats head, especially in warmer months
- bergamot mixed w anything woody
- all of the smells associated with camping
Jan 30, 2024
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chop off the top, drizzle w olive oil, sprinkle some maldon salt and wrap that baby up in some tinfoil & bake at 350F for 40-60min or until golden.
set it out as a little amuse bouche at a dinner party and watch as the people (your friends lol) try their hardest to mask their gluttony while they swarm around the table stabbing for those delicious salty, nutty and slightly sweet cloves.
i am a mastermind of gluttony and intoxication.
eat, my sweet hungry fools! eat!!
Jan 30, 2024