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Not in a “I’m too cool to gaf” way but in a way that’s like… I’m actually more focused on what’s in front of me and being present most of the time and not stressing over something I have no control over (like the past) or something I don’t have the solution to right now (the future). It took me soooo long to learn this but after consistently going to therapy weekly for 6 months straight I’m finally getting the hang of it and my therapist was right!!!!! Deal with it when it’s right in front of you and not when it’s still 100 miles away. BE PRESENT. :D
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My therapist is not a tough love kinda therapist. And I've maybe heard him curse three times. But we had been talking about the same issue for a while and I was trying not to ruminate, but I was also analyzing and pathologizing over and over. And finally he just said, sometimes you have to get the fuck over it. And it allowed me to imagine a life beyond the past, to not let the past define you. It's easier said than done to just flip a switch and actively choose a better way. To stop it from taking up so much space in your head. But sometimes you truly need to flip that switch and get over it.
May 28, 2024
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Also known as getting to the root of the problem
Mar 15, 2024
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i focus on what i can control and my personal strategy is compassion - we are not so different and even when there is difficulty i do my best to understand what may be hurting and why, and hold space and patience and empathy for that person which will hopefully encourage their own cooperation. it’s easy to focus on the negative but maintaining a personal peace in which you don’t take others’ actions too personally will alleviate that judgment and helps me shift into a mindset of understanding and even detachment so i can focus on the problem to solve!!
Oct 4, 2024
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One thing about me is I love to leave
Apr 12, 2024
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When you’re in a slump, you’re in a slump.
Let yourself feel things. The good and the bad. I welcome them like a visitor and I invite them at the pretend dinner table in my head and get to know them, and I try not to ask them why they’re here. Why I feel things. I just let them be. Know that this will pass, just like a person visiting for a few nights and I try not to hold on to them when they’re ready to leave (yes those feelings will pass). Sounds very cliché but they do.
From my experience, the longer I fight the sadness/depression/slump, the longer it stays. I’ve learned just to take it day by day. This wouldn’t be possible without months of therapy where it was revealed to me that I’ve been so hard on myself almost my entire life.
I also meditate every night for 15-20 minutes. I take this activity so seriously, just a few minutes to close my eyes and release the tension I’ve felt the whole day. I love staying still. I love to close my eyes and think of nothing. My drive will come back.
What also helps (for me) is taking a few minutes a day to go outside and letting the sun touch my skin. It feels so good. Listen to the birds. Listen to the traffic. Just observe your surroundings and remember that there is life outside you and you are a part of something big and eventually you get inspired by something. May it be small or big. It will come back to you.
Be gentle and kind to yourself <3
Apr 25, 2024
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Solves just about anything
Dec 25, 2024