Know yourself well enough to say no to trends, âgoodâ thrift store finds, cheap construction, the list could go on and on. Over consumption makes it so much more confusing. Be picky asf, know you, & know your vibe.
Obviously weâre always changing and youâll never really know if youâll like something you just bought in the future. Whatâs stayed with me the longest has been helpful with identifying what is personal to me.
Who I find the most inspirational with the way they dress are people who have interests outside of just clothing and aesthetics. You are what you consume!
Feb 8, 2024
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In the years of 2020-2023, I was in my early 20s and very much in between aesthetics. I hated the clothes I wore, and was looking for new ways to express myself through my fashion. With the seemingly never slowing down trend cycle that was going at the speed of light at that time, and my tiny paychecks, I basically solely relied on Shein to allow me some freedom and creativity with my style. For a few years, I was stuck in the repeated cycle of ordering 50+ cheap items, and then donating 10-20 of them within the same year, and repeating that again when I would get bored of what I had. I would go thrifting too to try and "balance out" my fast fashion endeavors, but would end up buying more things that I hated by the time I got home. I could not figure out how to make any of these items work with my wardrobe, regardless if they were new or used. This reckless consumerism taught me absolutely nothing about my sense of style. I had to figure out the hard way that style is not something you acquire overnight, and that you cannot always rely on trends to find items you will like for a lifetime. Fast fashion has done nothing but taught us to cycle through clothing at a rate where no one can keep up, and has left many of us in a place where we are only satisfied with how we dress for no longer than a few months at a time.
Discovering your personal style is one of the things that should take time.
I'm 25 now, and I find it very important to source good quality items that I know will be a staple in my wardrobe for a long long time. I've decided that if I want to buy new clothing, I will get most of my new clothes from thrift/vintage shops and boutiques (online or in person). I haven't completely shuttered out fast fashion, though. I only buy items that I am able to try on in person to make sure it is made with good material (aka: the plain $10 Walmart zip-up hoodies that feel like butter). By embracing a slower approach to finding my personal style, I've found quite a few key items that I really love to wear over the past two years, and in turn I have greatly reduced the amount of clothing that gets donated. I am still learning how to accessorize, and am trying my best to utilize as much of my existing closet as possible. It is a journey! I can't wait to see where my more sustainable approach to a style journey brings me!
QUALITY > QUANTITY
Feb 12, 2025
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Look at the six items you actually wear and note what you like about them: is it the color, the fit, the style (casual, formal, eclectic, etc.), brand, season, and fabric.
As an example, I feel most confident in structured, classic modern outfitsâ I look for all organic materials (linen, cotton, silk), I tend to stick to a few favorite brands for basics, and I keep a list of what I need to replace/whatâs missing in my closet so I donât impulse purchase vintage t-shirts when I need a fitted blazer.
Thrift stores are really great for exploring your styleâ so are mood boards. When you see an outfit you love online, take a picture of it or note what about it was interesting.
One thing that I think goes overlooked is underwearâ a well fitted bra really changes how clothes, especially shirts, hang and feel. Youâll only wear an outfit if the underwear you wear it with is comfortable. So if you have a dress you love, but arenât wearing it because it either requires shapewear that makes you uncomfortable, or a nude/backless underwear or bra that you donât keep in your closet, youâll get less wear out of the item.
Additionally, know your measurements. Your body size is neutral, but language around sizing isnât, and it can be discouraging to shop when you have a vague idea of your sizes and end up needing to size up or down. Get a soft tape measure, and get your true waist, hips, bust, shoulders, inseam, and rise. I have a very high rise to my natural waist, and knowing that helps me shop for pants and skirts with less frustration over fit.
Lastly, itâs okay for it to take timeâ curating your style and wardrobe should be ongoing and thoughtful; a fast fashion haul wonât help figure out what you like outside of trends, and those clothes tend to break down quickly. If you can, try to buy well made versions of your staple itemsâ resale and thrift stores are a great place to find real leather jackets, upscale basics, and one of a kind pieces that you canât find elsewhere.
Jun 23, 2024
allocating more than just a few pinterest ideas and aesthetics in order to curate a style that youâre confident in will make you stand out. whether you think thatâs a good or bad thing, by âstand outâ i mean people catch a glimpse of you and immediately know who you are based on how you dress. thereâs nothing wrong with going with a trend if you like it, but itâs so painful to see people consume for the sake of consumption. i mean thatâs a concept for a whole other rec in itself, but what iâm trying to get at is you donât need to constantly use outfit inspo pics for outfit inspo. seek your surroundings, ponder your past, think about yourself as a piece of art, which you ultimately are. donât avoid wearing the statement piece that a stranger would find weird, theyâre probably just pissy. dress the fuck up on days you donât need to just for the hell of it.
and remember, donât get discouraged if the first âcrazyâ fit you throw on looks like shit. it takes time to make art!
and if you feel comfortable and beautiful in simpler articles, and youâre not into anything too bold or loud, still make it your look. art doesnât have to be complex, but make each choice have purpose. why choose one blank white tee over another? is it a specific hue of white? does it compliment other features of your outfit? is it comfy as fuck? show that to people and make them know itâs you. you donât need to dress to impress, but god if you bought that shirt only because your favorite influencer promoted it, or even worse if you bought it just because it was on a sale rack, youâre disrespecting your canvas! itâs like pissing on a van gogh oil paintingâ it might look amazing but you canât help but think about the fact that thereâs piss on it.
that brings me to probably the most widespread concern of consumers: cost. yes, higher quality products are going to cost more. itâs difficult in such a dense place like SoCal(where iâm from) to find cheap ANYTHING. i split a dozen dumplings for $20 the other day with a friend and i swear i couldâve called 911 on this food-influencer-aimed âchineseâ restaurant for highway robbery. food was pretty good tho canât lie. however, that doesnât mean that itâs impossible to find incredible clothing from staple secondhand stores like Goodwill. several friends of mine have landed at their unique styles that can be associated directly to them, and their closets are mostly filled with Goodwill Bins finds. âohhhh the Bins are so dirtyyy eewwwwâ yeah if you canât dig through some used clothing for a while donât complain about not being able to afford those $600 shitstained acne jeans. i mightâve gotten a little personal with that. lmk your thoughts on fashion and what it means to you!
you know what fuck it just wear sweatpants a sweatshirt and flip flops lifeâs not that serious
Oct 1, 2024
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It includes screenshots from films like Wong Kar-waiâs âIn the Mood for Loveâ, Wes Andersonâs âThe Grand Budapest Hotelâ, & Juzo Itamiâs âTampopoâ and their inspired recipes. Great for inspiring your next movie and dinner party with friends!
Feb 10, 2024
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once you get past the mental terrors that youâve been harboring, the sound scape of your surroundings could be the new ambient score youâve been looking for
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