this is something my parents often talk about when they talk about their parenting "style"...
basically when we were little and a new hot toy/gadget/thing came out, they would hold off on buying it on principle. If a few months went by and I still wanted the thing (likely bc I had played with it at someone else's house) then they would become open to the possibility and potentially let me get it (not always).
They said they wanted to teach us to develop our own tastes, and not be impulsive with our money when we were older. Tbh I think it worked well, I often only participate in a trend if I really like it and think I'll wear it past the trend cycle.
Feb 18, 2024
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i used to have to wait to get things and it was so much more rewarding, now i spoil myself, if i want something i buy it. (trying to work on this a lot)
Feb 22, 2025
I’ve spent years coming to terms with my relationship to shopping and how that impacts my life, my finances, my relationship to self. I’ve done no-spend months and saved up for items, but by far my favorite tactic to curbing my spending is delayed gratification. Anytime I see something I want, I add it to my digital wishlist. The beauty is, the act of putting the item on the list keeps the idea of it alive and satisfies this tiny urge to spend money. Even better, the list acts as a little magic tool of manifestation. I have periodically been gifted things off of my list and regularly find items on the list second hand!
Feb 27, 2025
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imo understanding why/how I kept collecting random stuff helped me focus only on what I had; if I wanted to buy smthn but it had NO PRACTICAL USE or smthn I owned ALREADY FULFILLED THE PURPOSE it‘s not getting bought 🤷♀️
Oct 30, 2024
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Feb 20, 2024
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Last year my new year's resolution was to get hotter. To this day it is the best resolution I've ever made, because feeling hot forces you to be embodied.
In 2023 I genuinely put time and energy into considering my corporeal form. What cuts of clothing make me feel powerful? What colors? What fabrics do I like to feel on my skin? What hairstyles accentuate my bone structure? What physical activity could I actually sustain and enjoy? How does my body feel energetically when I eat certain foods?
It brought me out of a haze of digital overwhelm; I was no longer an avatar but a living, breathing, sweating, dancing, fucking human. Consider getting hotter today!
Feb 19, 2024
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Become the bubbe you always dreamed of being ❣️
Some phrases to get you started:
Chutzpah - a Yiddish classic, "panache", guts, grit, spunk
Schlep - also a classic, meaning to lug a bunch of stuff around
Kvetch - to whine / complain. This is very important.
Schmooze - Being able to schmooze is the most important life skill: making chit chat and buttering people up along the way.
Mishegas - Craziness. It's very helpful to blame everything on mishegas...
Feb 23, 2024