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after being raised in a context where you were taught to be hard on yourself, leaning into self-compassion as a way of life in adulthood is truly powerful. hold yourself accountable and give yourself grace when you flounder, both are needed.
Mar 3, 2024
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Itās not easy, Iām still tough on myself, but when I catch myself thinking negatively about things Iām doing wrong or not perfect, I imagine how my inner child would feel and I would comfort and forgive her, reassuring her that itās ok and that weāll figure out what we can do better
Apr 29, 2024
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been having a lot of moments going wow, yay, look at me now!! I could have never done/said this before! but absolutely No shame to my past self. she was doing her bestā but look at how Iāve grown!
self compassion expanding to compassion to all
Apr 6, 2024
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my therapist made me do this once and it was absolutely brutalā¦ so many tears and compassion just comes flooding inā¦ if you are ever finding your inner voice to be too mean and harsh this works so well iām so serious
Feb 25, 2024
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felt the same way, was sick of it. got a flip phone i could slip my sim card into, activated it. first two weeks i was kind of itching for the smartphone and the little dopamine hits. after a while things started changing. i started reading for fun again, my attention span improved significantly, i carried a little journal everywhere to jot down my thoughts. in every room where everyone was on their phones, i felt like i was the only person actually present, paying attention. i found so many beautiful ways to fill the time. strangers praised me for my bravery lol. when i had to drive or go somewhere i didnāt know how to get to i would write down the directions on a post it note and carry it or stick it to the dashboard. you will literally feel smarter for relying on your brain to figure things like this out instead of being on autopilot all the time. you can carry your smartphone around to use as an ipod/pocket camera and in an emergency it will still work on wifi. i asked friends to look things up for me (business hours, weather, traffic, phone numbers) when i was out and about. if people texted me id tell them to call me if they wanted to talk. it was a great decision that only ended bc i did an extended trip abroad where i needed my phone to get by, but i am going to go back to the flip again soon. i highly recommend! nothing compares to flipping a phone shut to hang up a call. it taught me how to enjoy true solitude again. do it!!!
Feb 27, 2024
āwow i am in so much pain, i feel so ALIVEā
āi am grateful to know that i have loved, truly lovedā
āmay i never grow too guarded to feel into the depths of my soulā
āall my favorite artists have felt this feeling, i am bound by heartbreak to my fellow humansā
āthis grief is a process of me returning to myselfā
if all else fails, watch the clip from call me by your name where the dad talks to his son about heartbreak (linked)
keep a journal, be patient, show yourself as much compassion as you possibly can
Mar 16, 2024
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my last ābreak upā was from a situationship with a guy who i would regularly stay up all night with, chain smoking and talking about every damn thing under the sun. i would often wake up the next day feeling swollen and raspy and like i was doing way too much of a āgoodā thing. i could never resist him or those damn cigs. when he broke things off unceremoniously, i decided to sever the attachment to my other unhealthy habit at the same time. i havenāt touched a cigarette since.
Mar 6, 2024